How long did it take you to get into a relationship? Lets talk!

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Scenic
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For my current relationship, I actually waited 5 months to make it official since I wasn't sure if I wanted to date him. Although we count our first date as our anniversary for some reason?? Anyway, we just hit 4 years less than a week ago.

For my other 2 relationships, I'd say maybe two weeks to a month? I don't quite remember. It all sounds rather slow for my personality. Those two lasted 2 years and 8 months.
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ariesleo5eva
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Posted by ariesleo5eva
okay so from the talking (casual dating) how long did it take you to get into that relationship? & how long did it last? can you really put a time limit on relationships/marriage?
About a 6months since we began dating.

It takes me about a year to come to terms with it.

Relationships tend to last minus the last one.

I don't put a time limit and I don't like to casual date.

I don't like labels so I'll probably wait months (close to a year) to make things official.
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aha are you an earth sign by any chance? I notice when I take my time to get to know the person it actually last longer im so use to jumping into things lol *fire sign probs*
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LadyNeptune
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For me it depends on the person, my interest level, and most importantly how often I see them.

I dated a Virgo for almost 2 years and because he went through 2 deployments during that time I very rarely saw him. Lots of communication over the phone/skype but I felt like I really didn't know him that well so it didn't move as quickly as other relationships. He also turned out to be a two timing asswipe but that's for another thread...

Typically though, IF I'm seeing him 2xs per week and IF I'm interested in exploring long term it's around 2-3months. If the 3 month mark passes and there's no sign that exclusivity is gonna happen I will move on. Not about to waste more time.
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peo
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This is actually really interesting. I seem to meet people who make things official with me very fast. My last partner told her mom about me after about a week. Introduced me to her close friends shortly after. And she's not the first one to do so and then pull a painful 180 on me quite some time later.

I'm usually slow to tell anyone that I'm seeing someone new, but when the people I date get so excited about me and introduce me to everyone close to them I start feeling safe, get attached and do the same thing.