The art of letting go

I feel it can be a strength but also a "curse" . I used to have no issue cutting people off , I could be friends with you for a long time but someday I would be like "bye" . I have realised that's mainly because my expectations can be too high , or sometimes I am overly judgmental therefore 1 bad thing and they are out . I am actually try to work on that and not dismiss people . HOWEVER .

I have realized that's an entire whole thing when it comes to romantic relationships . People say if you really want to let go of someone you can and you will . I believe that I can let go and I will slowly but sure , however why is it so difficult , I truly want to let that person go and cut them out of my life as they are toxic and don't value me . I have deleted everything and removed myself from the equation , so I am on my way ... But still , I wish it was easier maybe once you truly loved someone , there can be some type of residue or we associate letting go with forgetting the person ever existed . If we link this to astro - I have venus in leo and moon + rising in taurus which are fixed signs I believe . I gotta say that I feel my venus in leo frequently in my relationships ( love hard and big) ^^

Anyway my question is : have you ever struggled to let someone go and in what the person represented to you ?

What's your sun and moon? I know someone who cuts people off too if they do something wrong in their eyes

I've struggled to let this guy I really liked go for a while. But it took me quite a while to work on to let him go. I had to realize that he wasn't going to be part of my life anymore and that I needed to move on. I still think about him occasionally thougho

I have sun in virgo and moon in taurus ...

What makes me picky is definitely the sun sign 😆 _ I can be quite rational and sometimes I don't make decisions based on emotions . I can sometimes manage to do that for people that I like but not crazy care about ?

i did. to hard for me to let him go even i knew that he hurt me so much . he has sun in virgo and moon was in gemini and i have sun in gemini and moon in scorpio. miss him a lot but i keep my self busy.

Posted by Already-use
I feel it can be a strength but also a "curse" . I used to have no issue cutting people off , I could be friends with you for a long time but someday I would be like "bye" . I have realised that's mainly because my expectations can be too high , or sometimes I am overly judgmental therefore 1 bad thing and they are out . I am actually try to work on that and not dismiss people . HOWEVER .

I have realized that's an entire whole thing when it comes to romantic relationships . People say if you really want to let go of someone you can and you will . I believe that I can let go and I will slowly but sure , however why is it so difficult , I truly want to let that person go and cut them out of my life as they are toxic and don't value me . I have deleted everything and removed myself from the equation , so I am on my way ... But still , I wish it was easier maybe once you truly loved someone , there can be some type of residue or we associate letting go with forgetting the person ever existed . If we link this to astro - I have venus in leo and moon + rising in taurus which are fixed signs I believe . I gotta say that I feel my venus in leo frequently in my relationships ( love hard and big) ^^

Anyway my question is : have you ever struggled to let someone go and in what the person represented to you ?

Ur Virgo sun? I'm Virgo sun and Leo Venus and Taurus rising...you'll get over np...I'm actually missing the feelings I had for a girl...wish I get back then butterflies...but I like another girl now so I don't think about the last...once I get a new love then I guess that's how you move on

I have Taurus moon too. People say Taurus moons have problem letting go. But I don't. People may/may not be at fault, I may be their best friend this moment...but if I have to let go, I'll just drop them. All I need is to decide(ok that'll take a while).True, it would be a tad difficult to let few people go..but we'd be fine. I surprised myself with how fine I am with letting few people go. But does that mean I didn't love these people?? With all my heart!! Then? When I should I will.. Period ? I think I somehow mastered this art.

Well i dont know which placements might be responsible for that but yes. I wasted so much time in abusive relationships because i have such a hard time letting go when i am in love. This would involve me accepting to be treated like a POS. And even when i cut the relationship and block them everywhere yes i do miss them and wonder what if but i try to remember bad stuff to move on. Also i am not proud of it but it occured to me to sleep around to forget someone. But i still managed to forget, well not completely, it might happen that i wonder what that person became. And when i manage to move on, i still love them, not in a romantic way but more like "hey we are complete strangers now but you once were in my life and contributed to who i am today, and you meant something to me and always will, even though now i avoid you and would cross the street if i ran into you." It just stays, i guess it's fine. I can't imagine forgetting someone who meant something to me, when i moved on i keep the good memories but still wont talk to them again.

Im pisces also and have deleted several people out of my life. If your having trouble letting them go, remember the reasons your getting rid of them. I dont let my feelings get involved with my decision making. But if you hurt my feelings enough, your gone. I have no toxic people in my life, I dont associate with ex's or anyone that has done me wrong. Life is good without all the garbage. Humans are shitty and I refuse to associate with 99.9% of them.

I'm in the process of letting someone go... I literally just had one of the hardest cry in my entire life. It was as if I was grieving someone's death. And that's a way to look it... I have to see what was ended as a death...

I’m a firm believer in giving others the benefit of the doubt even when wronged. I’ve endured a lot of suffering, but what keeps me going is maintaining optimism and focusing on the positives. I feel someone cannot truly be let go until said person is forgiven. When a person is cut out of another’s life there tends to be resentment, anger, pain, regret, a mixture of emotions behind it. Until that person is forgiven then will you feel content, at peace.

Personally, I’ve never cut someone out except for one and the underlying cause that would cause me to act in a manner is physical harm towards me or any of my loved ones. I have taken back friends and family members who have committed repeat offenses against me. It may not be immediately, it may be over time or I’ll keep them at bay, but I'd never blacklist them from my life because I always want to believe in the good of others. I try to understand their reasons and why they behave in a particular way rather than blame and shun. I am that person who would heal her enemies. I am currently experiencing this situation with one friend and we haven't spoken in a few years. It was over something minor also, but I guess feelings built up for a while from both ends. Regardless, I've attempted to reach out to her, but I can't force her hand. Yet, if she one day decides to approach me, I'd welcome her with open arms. I hope she is doing well.

"Sassykiwi" - I'm sure I can relate , I think time can heal everything !

I tend to be quite optimistic in general and I am a forgiving person . I forgive people with time and I forgave him , I'm not mad at him or anything . At this point I just really need also to take my distance and move on . And if someday he were to talk to me or come back in my life ok . But I really don't want to be weak and contact him again . I tend to believe that if things are meant to happen , they will happen forcing them or holding on to things won't help . Let go and if it's meant for you , it will come back if not at least you know you are strong enough to move on .

Virgorean - that's exactly how I feel / want to say .

My door is not closed and I feel that if someone that I truly loved and we shared a lot of special moments together - I don't want to let stupid meaningless fights ruin something that I feel quite precious . I can forgive someone who has offended or tried to hurt me cause I don't want to have resentment or bitterness in me . No thanks . But sometimes the person can be toxic or bad for you for the time being .. That's why I like to recharge .. Sometimes my thoughts are like : yes but deep down you still like him so why don't you contact him etc ... And I have to remind myself that this guy is not good for me and could never give me what I deserve .

So again - with time it will all make sense , you get new habits and you meet new people and eventually you will miss less that person . At least that's what I like to think . And someday they will / or not wake up and find that they pushed away someone who would have never left .

Also I know that I have tried everything and I am at peace with that .

Letting go does not mean you won't miss them . It means that I chose to put myself first and chose happiness instead of being worried or upset .

Posted by Virgorean
I’m a firm believer in giving others the benefit of the doubt even when wronged. I’ve endured a lot of suffering, but what keeps me going is maintaining optimism and focusing on the positives. I feel someone cannot truly be let go until said person is forgiven. When a person is cut out of another’s life there tends to be resentment, anger, pain, regret, a mixture of emotions behind it. Until that person is forgiven then will you feel content, at peace.

Personally, I’ve never cut someone out except for one and the underlying cause that would cause me to act in a manner is physical harm towards me or any of my loved ones. I have taken back friends and family members who have committed repeat offenses against me. It may not be immediately, it may be over time or I’ll keep them at bay, but I'd never blacklist them from my life because I always want to believe in the good of others. I try to understand their reasons and why they behave in a particular way rather than blame and shun. I am that person who would heal her enemies. I am currently experiencing this situation with one friend and we haven't spoken in a few years. It was over something minor also, but I guess feelings built up for a while from both ends. Regardless, I've attempted to reach out to her, but I can't force her hand. Yet, if she one day decides to approach me, I'd welcome her with open arms. I hope she is doing well.

You ever saw the list of Jericho? Well I have my own list too....

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Posted by Already-use
I feel it can be a strength but also a "curse" . I used to have no issue cutting people off , I could be friends with you for a long time but someday I would be like "bye" . I have realised that's mainly because my expectations can be too high , or sometimes I am overly judgmental therefore 1 bad thing and they are out . I am actually try to work on that and not dismiss people . HOWEVER .

I have realized that's an entire whole thing when it comes to romantic relationships . People say if you really want to let go of someone you can and you will . I believe that I can let go and I will slowly but sure , however why is it so difficult , I truly want to let that person go and cut them out of my life as they are toxic and don't value me . I have deleted everything and removed myself from the equation , so I am on my way ... But still , I wish it was easier maybe once you truly loved someone , there can be some type of residue or we associate letting go with forgetting the person ever existed . If we link this to astro - I have venus in leo and moon + rising in taurus which are fixed signs I believe . I gotta say that I feel my venus in leo frequently in my relationships ( love hard and big) ^^

Anyway my question is : have you ever struggled to let someone go and in what the person represented to you ?

Ur Virgo sun? I'm Virgo sun and Leo Venus and Taurus rising...you'll get over np...I'm actually missing the feelings I had for a girl...wish I get back then butterflies...but I like another girl now so I don't think about the last...once I get a new love then I guess that's how you move on

Cool placements. I have Virgo sun, Taurus moon and Leo venus 🙂

What's your moon?

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I'm a Scorpio moon. They say we're a real pain lol. I got some questions for you. You're married right? How's married Life as a Virgo? Also what signs are you attracted to?

I've struggled to let go before

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Posted by Virgorean
I’m a firm believer in giving others the benefit of the doubt even when wronged. I’ve endured a lot of suffering, but what keeps me going is maintaining optimism and focusing on the positives. I feel someone cannot truly be let go until said person is forgiven. When a person is cut out of another’s life there tends to be resentment, anger, pain, regret, a mixture of emotions behind it. Until that person is forgiven then will you feel content, at peace.

Personally, I’ve never cut someone out except for one and the underlying cause that would cause me to act in a manner is physical harm towards me or any of my loved ones. I have taken back friends and family members who have committed repeat offenses against me. It may not be immediately, it may be over time or I’ll keep them at bay, but I'd never blacklist them from my life because I always want to believe in the good of others. I try to understand their reasons and why they behave in a particular way rather than blame and shun. I am that person who would heal her enemies. I am currently experiencing this situation with one friend and we haven't spoken in a few years. It was over something minor also, but I guess feelings built up for a while from both ends. Regardless, I've attempted to reach out to her, but I can't force her hand. Yet, if she one day decides to approach me, I'd welcome her with open arms. I hope she is doing well.

You ever saw the list of Jericho? Well I have my own list too....

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I don't know who/what that is. Unless you mean the city of Jericho...

Posted by starwars
same but not when it comes to friends and connections but when it comes to material stuff and success

You let go of success?

Posted by TerramineLightvoid
That person could pass away and you'd never know. They're gone forever but it matters none to you.

Precisely why I don't hold grudges. I'd rather be at peace with that person than wonder 'I wish.'

Who knew there were a song from mariah carey called the art of letting go ! Perfect ^^

I still struggle with letting go of my feelings for the Scorp. He's so wrong for me. Toxic. But the struggle is real. Doesn't help that I see him through work situations.

Virgo Sun/ Leo Venus/ Sag Moon

Posted by SassyKiwi
I'm in the process of letting someone go... I literally just had one of the hardest cry in my entire life. It was as if I was grieving someone's death. And that's a way to look it... I have to see what was ended as a death...

Why let go of hurts so much?

It's your Leo Venus!!! I have the same problem!

Posted by KaineVirgoMale
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