Lying Aqua

So my close Aqua friend has been lying to everyone for months...And before anyone asks, there is proof that he has been lying. Initially it was the context of the lie but it's being going on so long that we feel he is no longer respecting us as friends by being dishonest. He hates people who lie and always prided himself on telling the truth but this is out of control. My Sag friend who is also besties with him hates lying and confronted him many times but he denied. She has now broken all ties with him because of all the proof she saw. Im still friends with him and her but it's killing me that my Sag friend and Aqua friend are done. I feel like the middle of a sandwich. Can I fix this between them? I thought Aquas couldnt lie??

Curious, but what is he lying about?

Posted by Mr_Pinchy
Curious, but what is he lying about?

Thought someone would ask.

He is seeing someone and has been for months on the quiet. She got out of a marriage and less than 6 months they are together..he was seeing someone else at the same time prior and that person asked and was told nothing was going on.

Sure, maybe it's not anyone's business but there are children involved who have been taught to lie or to just keep their mouth shut.

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Posted by Mr_Pinchy
Curious, but what is he lying about?

Thought someone would ask.

He is seeing someone and has been for months on the quiet. She got out of a marriage and less than 6 months they are together..he was seeing someone else at the same time prior and that person asked and was told nothing was going on.

Sure, maybe it's not anyone's business but there are children involved who have been taught to lie or to just keep their mouth shut.

Hmm I'm confused, so aqua guy is seeing two people at the same time? While being married or?

And the children are seeing the women?

If so, yes that's bad business

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Not married. He has child. She has children. And another woman in the mix yes.

The kids don't see what's going on but they are around a lot at each others houses acting like friends around the children.

How long where the aqua and sag together?

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How long where the aqua and sag together?

Aqua and Sag not physically together. Just best buddies for around 2 years.

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Posted by pisceswoman123
How long where the aqua and sag together?

Aqua and Sag not physically together. Just best buddies for around 2 years.

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I am confused. What is the problem then

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Posted by Gemgal101

Posted by pisceswoman123
How long where the aqua and sag together?

Aqua and Sag not physically together. Just best buddies for around 2 years.

I am confused. What is the problem then

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Women cockblocking for the "sake of the children".

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Posted by Gemgal101

Posted by pisceswoman123
How long where the aqua and sag together?

Aqua and Sag not physically together. Just best buddies for around 2 years.

I am confused. What is the problem then

Women cockblocking for the "sake of the children".

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Explain??

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Posted by Mr_Pinchy
Curious, but what is he lying about?

Thought someone would ask.

He is seeing someone and has been for months on the quiet. She got out of a marriage and less than 6 months they are together..he was seeing someone else at the same time prior and that person asked and was told nothing was going on.

Sure, maybe it's not anyone's business but there are children involved who have been taught to lie or to just keep their mouth shut.

Hmm I'm confused, so aqua guy is seeing two people at the same time? While being married or?

And the children are seeing the women?

If so, yes that's bad business

Not married. He has child. She has children. And another woman in the mix yes.

Maybe they have an open relationship? Or he is afraid to tell you guys what's going on because you wouldn't understand.

Did you talk to the woman in the mix? What was her view?

You can't really judge a situation of you don't have all the details.

Anyway, if he is you and your Sag best friend he should be honest and open about everything otherwise he's not a real friend.

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I don't think she is aware there is a woman in the mix and the woman in the mix is upset because she has fallen for him.

He is not ready for a relationship and I'm sure both women know that and that is why it's on the quiet. I do know the whole situation but it's the lying more than anything and my Sag friend is devo. She misses him but he hasn't attempted to apologise for his lying.

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Posted by Mr_Pinchy

Posted by pisceswoman123

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Posted by pisceswoman123
How long where the aqua and sag together?

Aqua and Sag not physically together. Just best buddies for around 2 years.

I am confused. What is the problem then

Women cockblocking for the "sake of the children".

Explain??

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The sag is indirectly conditioning her friendship with this guy on the account of him being with two women. What do the kids lie about? Are they even asked by the first woman if there is a second woman in the house occasionally?

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Posted by pisceswoman123

Posted by Gemgal101

Posted by pisceswoman123
How long where the aqua and sag together?

Aqua and Sag not physically together. Just best buddies for around 2 years.

I am confused. What is the problem then

Women cockblocking for the "sake of the children".

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Posted by pisceswoman123

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Posted by pisceswoman123
How long where the aqua and sag together?

Aqua and Sag not physically together. Just best buddies for around 2 years.

I am confused. What is the problem then

Women cockblocking for the "sake of the children".

Explain??

The sag is indirectly conditioning her friendship with this guy on the account of him being with two women. What do the kids lie about? Are they even asked by the first woman if there is a second woman in the house occasionally?

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If i asked the kids what they did today, they'd say nothing even though I may know that they spent the day with their mum in his presence. The female has her own place and so does he and the first woman wouldn't ask but the second woman might.

So my Sag friend is more pissed at him for being with 2 women than Lying??

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Posted by Mr_Pinchy

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Posted by pisceswoman123

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Posted by pisceswoman123
How long where the aqua and sag together?

Aqua and Sag not physically together. Just best buddies for around 2 years.

I am confused. What is the problem then

Women cockblocking for the "sake of the children".

Explain??

The sag is indirectly conditioning her friendship with this guy on the account of him being with two women. What do the kids lie about? Are they even asked by the first woman if there is a second woman in the house occasionally?

If i asked the kids what they did today, they'd say nothing even though I may know that they spent the day with their mum in his presence. The female has her own place and so does he and the first woman wouldn't ask but the second woman might.

So my Sag friend is more pissed at him for being with 2 women than Lying??

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I don't exactly condone his behaviour but am of the opinion your sag friend should mind her own business.

You both are operating with "if's" here.

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Posted by pisceswoman123

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Posted by pisceswoman123
How long where the aqua and sag together?

Aqua and Sag not physically together. Just best buddies for around 2 years.

I am confused. What is the problem then

Women cockblocking for the "sake of the children".

Explain??

The sag is indirectly conditioning her friendship with this guy on the account of him being with two women. What do the kids lie about? Are they even asked by the first woman if there is a second woman in the house occasionally?

If i asked the kids what they did today, they'd say nothing even though I may know that they spent the day with their mum in his presence. The female has her own place and so does he and the first woman wouldn't ask but the second woman might.

So my Sag friend is more pissed at him for being with 2 women than Lying??

I don't exactly condone his behaviour but am of the opinion your sag friend should mind her own business.

You both are operating with "if's" here.

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I agree

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Posted by Gemgal101

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Posted by Mr_Pinchy

Posted by pisceswoman123

Posted by Gemgal101

Posted by pisceswoman123
How long where the aqua and sag together?

Aqua and Sag not physically together. Just best buddies for around 2 years.

I am confused. What is the problem then

Women cockblocking for the "sake of the children".

Explain??

The sag is indirectly conditioning her friendship with this guy on the account of him being with two women. What do the kids lie about? Are they even asked by the first woman if there is a second woman in the house occasionally?

If i asked the kids what they did today, they'd say nothing even though I may know that they spent the day with their mum in his presence. The female has her own place and so does he and the first woman wouldn't ask but the second woman might.

So my Sag friend is more pissed at him for being with 2 women than Lying??

I don't exactly condone his behaviour but am of the opinion your sag friend should mind her own business.

You both are operating with "if's" here.

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My Sag friend does not give too hoots about the context of the lies. It's the fact that he lied to her face knowing she hates liars and so does he and she has proof he is lying.

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Posted by Mr_Pinchy
Curious, but what is he lying about?

Thought someone would ask.

He is seeing someone and has been for months on the quiet. She got out of a marriage and less than 6 months they are together..he was seeing someone else at the same time prior and that person asked and was told nothing was going on.

Sure, maybe it's not anyone's business but there are children involved who have been taught to lie or to just keep their mouth shut.

Hmm I'm confused, so aqua guy is seeing two people at the same time? While being married or?

And the children are seeing the women?

If so, yes that's bad business

Not married. He has child. She has children. And another woman in the mix yes.

Maybe they have an open relationship? Or he is afraid to tell you guys what's going on because you wouldn't understand.

Did you talk to the woman in the mix? What was her view?

You can't really judge a situation of you don't have all the details.

Anyway, if he is you and your Sag best friend he should be honest and open about everything otherwise he's not a real friend.

I don't think she is aware there is a woman in the mix and the woman in the mix is upset because she has fallen for him.

He is not ready for a relationship and I'm sure both women know that and that is why it's on the quiet. I do know the whole situation but it's the lying more than anything and my Sag friend is devo. She misses him but he hasn't attempted to apologise for his lying.

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“He is not ready for a relationship and I'm sure both women know that “

So he is not really in a relationship with anyone of them?

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Posted by Mr_Pinchy
Curious, but what is he lying about?

Thought someone would ask.

He is seeing someone and has been for months on the quiet. She got out of a marriage and less than 6 months they are together..he was seeing someone else at the same time prior and that person asked and was told nothing was going on.

Sure, maybe it's not anyone's business but there are children involved who have been taught to lie or to just keep their mouth shut.

Hmm I'm confused, so aqua guy is seeing two people at the same time? While being married or?

And the children are seeing the women?

If so, yes that's bad business

Not married. He has child. She has children. And another woman in the mix yes.

Maybe they have an open relationship? Or he is afraid to tell you guys what's going on because you wouldn't understand.

Did you talk to the woman in the mix? What was her view?

You can't really judge a situation of you don't have all the details.

Anyway, if he is you and your Sag best friend he should be honest and open about everything otherwise he's not a real friend.

I don't think she is aware there is a woman in the mix and the woman in the mix is upset because she has fallen for him.

He is not ready for a relationship and I'm sure both women know that and that is why it's on the quiet. I do know the whole situation but it's the lying more than anything and my Sag friend is devo. She misses him but he hasn't attempted to apologise for his lying.

“He is not ready for a relationship and I'm sure both women know that “

So he is not really in a relationship with anyone of them?

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This is true and I'm sure they both know that.

But I never said relationship. Seeing each other, yes but that's it but it's more the lying. No one cares what's going on anymore because it's been so long that it can't be hidden. It's the pile of lies being told and I thought Aquas didn't lie??

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Posted by Mr_Pinchy
Curious, but what is he lying about?

Thought someone would ask.

He is seeing someone and has been for months on the quiet. She got out of a marriage and less than 6 months they are together..he was seeing someone else at the same time prior and that person asked and was told nothing was going on.

Sure, maybe it's not anyone's business but there are children involved who have been taught to lie or to just keep their mouth shut.

Hmm I'm confused, so aqua guy is seeing two people at the same time? While being married or?

And the children are seeing the women?

If so, yes that's bad business

Not married. He has child. She has children. And another woman in the mix yes.

Maybe they have an open relationship? Or he is afraid to tell you guys what's going on because you wouldn't understand.

Did you talk to the woman in the mix? What was her view?

You can't really judge a situation of you don't have all the details.

Anyway, if he is you and your Sag best friend he should be honest and open about everything otherwise he's not a real friend.

I don't think she is aware there is a woman in the mix and the woman in the mix is upset because she has fallen for him.

He is not ready for a relationship and I'm sure both women know that and that is why it's on the quiet. I do know the whole situation but it's the lying more than anything and my Sag friend is devo. She misses him but he hasn't attempted to apologise for his lying.

Confront your aqua friend about it, give him 48 hours to think, and if he doesn't tell her, you will...

It's not fair for the both of them, and I think its your duty as a friend to make it very clear to your aqua friend that this is not ok and he should tell her. Kids, or no kids...

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Shouldn’t her loyalty be to her friend not his side pieces? This isn’t his wife we are talking about...it’s his fuck buddies.

Blowing up your boys spot is not being a good friend.

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Posted by pisceswoman123
How long where the aqua and sag together?

Aqua and Sag not physically together. Just best buddies for around 2 years.

I am confused. What is the problem then

Women cockblocking for the "sake of the children".

Explain??

The sag is indirectly conditioning her friendship with this guy on the account of him being with two women. What do the kids lie about? Are they even asked by the first woman if there is a second woman in the house occasionally?

If i asked the kids what they did today, they'd say nothing even though I may know that they spent the day with their mum in his presence. The female has her own place and so does he and the first woman wouldn't ask but the second woman might.

So my Sag friend is more pissed at him for being with 2 women than Lying??

I don't exactly condone his behaviour but am of the opinion your sag friend should mind her own business.

You both are operating with "if's" here.

My Sag friend does not give too hoots about the context of the lies. It's the fact that he lied to her face knowing she hates liars and so does he and she has proof he is lying.

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That is his private life and he choose if to tell or not to tell his friends.

I can see why he kept it in secret.

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Posted by Mr_Pinchy
Curious, but what is he lying about?

Thought someone would ask.

He is seeing someone and has been for months on the quiet. She got out of a marriage and less than 6 months they are together..he was seeing someone else at the same time prior and that person asked and was told nothing was going on.

Sure, maybe it's not anyone's business but there are children involved who have been taught to lie or to just keep their mouth shut.

Hmm I'm confused, so aqua guy is seeing two people at the same time? While being married or?

And the children are seeing the women?

If so, yes that's bad business

Not married. He has child. She has children. And another woman in the mix yes.

Maybe they have an open relationship? Or he is afraid to tell you guys what's going on because you wouldn't understand.

Did you talk to the woman in the mix? What was her view?

You can't really judge a situation of you don't have all the details.

Anyway, if he is you and your Sag best friend he should be honest and open about everything otherwise he's not a real friend.

I don't think she is aware there is a woman in the mix and the woman in the mix is upset because she has fallen for him.

He is not ready for a relationship and I'm sure both women know that and that is why it's on the quiet. I do know the whole situation but it's the lying more than anything and my Sag friend is devo. She misses him but he hasn't attempted to apologise for his lying.

“He is not ready for a relationship and I'm sure both women know that “

So he is not really in a relationship with anyone of them?

This is true and I'm sure they both know that.

But I never said relationship. Seeing each other, yes but that's it but it's more the lying. No one cares what's going on anymore because it's been so long that it can't be hidden. It's the pile of lies being told and I thought Aquas didn't lie??

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I am sorry I just don’t understand it.

If a friend of mine has to lie to me because he doesn’t want me to find about his private life I wouldn’t be upset about it. I will respect it and understand his reason for it.

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Posted by pisceswoman123
How long where the aqua and sag together?

Aqua and Sag not physically together. Just best buddies for around 2 years.

I am confused. What is the problem then

Women cockblocking for the "sake of the children".

Explain??

The sag is indirectly conditioning her friendship with this guy on the account of him being with two women. What do the kids lie about? Are they even asked by the first woman if there is a second woman in the house occasionally?

If i asked the kids what they did today, they'd say nothing even though I may know that they spent the day with their mum in his presence. The female has her own place and so does he and the first woman wouldn't ask but the second woman might.

So my Sag friend is more pissed at him for being with 2 women than Lying??

I don't exactly condone his behaviour but am of the opinion your sag friend should mind her own business.

You both are operating with "if's" here.

My Sag friend does not give too hoots about the context of the lies. It's the fact that he lied to her face knowing she hates liars and so does he and she has proof he is lying.

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So, it's really not about the children, they are just a vehicle through which to express the sag's triggered behaviour.

I get it, i really do, noone likes a lying friend, but objectively the options of him telling you both the truth and the friendly relationship with you two staying as it is are pretty slim. On the other hand, he obviously wanted the second woman.

So, if he can't tell you about both the women without getting into "trouble" he would hide it. The end result of the actions he undertook to satisfy his "thirst" is the same, you two are pissed, but the option he took at least has him having some fun while the charade lasts keeping your friendship alive as opposed to telling you both straight up and risking the friendship falling apart that instant.

This is largely a case of having your cake and eating it too. Somewhat failing at it tho, but such is the fate of people who try to sit on two stools in most cases.

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Posted by Mr_Pinchy
Curious, but what is he lying about?

Thought someone would ask.

He is seeing someone and has been for months on the quiet. She got out of a marriage and less than 6 months they are together..he was seeing someone else at the same time prior and that person asked and was told nothing was going on.

Sure, maybe it's not anyone's business but there are children involved who have been taught to lie or to just keep their mouth shut.

Hmm I'm confused, so aqua guy is seeing two people at the same time? While being married or?

And the children are seeing the women?

If so, yes that's bad business

Not married. He has child. She has children. And another woman in the mix yes.

Maybe they have an open relationship? Or he is afraid to tell you guys what's going on because you wouldn't understand.

Did you talk to the woman in the mix? What was her view?

You can't really judge a situation of you don't have all the details.

Anyway, if he is you and your Sag best friend he should be honest and open about everything otherwise he's not a real friend.

I don't think she is aware there is a woman in the mix and the woman in the mix is upset because she has fallen for him.

He is not ready for a relationship and I'm sure both women know that and that is why it's on the quiet. I do know the whole situation but it's the lying more than anything and my Sag friend is devo. She misses him but he hasn't attempted to apologise for his lying.

“He is not ready for a relationship and I'm sure both women know that “

So he is not really in a relationship with anyone of them?

This is true and I'm sure they both know that.

But I never said relationship. Seeing each other, yes but that's it but it's more the lying. No one cares what's going on anymore because it's been so long that it can't be hidden. It's the pile of lies being told and I thought Aquas didn't lie??

I am sorry I just don’t understand it.

If a friend of mine has to lie to me because he doesn’t want me to find about his private life I wouldn’t be upset about it. I will respect it and understand his reason for it.

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I can see where u are coming from but I think initially it was the fact that he was doing this to the first woman because she is good friends with her. The second woman was friends with the Sag ages ago but the Sag broke contact because she betrayed her trust and I think she feels the guy is blinded by this second woman and her character and that she is bad news.

Perhaps he knew if he let the Sag know what was going on, she would break friendship with him because of her ability to break trust in friends but now the friendship is gone purely because of the extent of the lies.

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How long where the aqua and sag together?

Aqua and Sag not physically together. Just best buddies for around 2 years.

I am confused. What is the problem then

Women cockblocking for the "sake of the children".

Explain??

The sag is indirectly conditioning her friendship with this guy on the account of him being with two women. What do the kids lie about? Are they even asked by the first woman if there is a second woman in the house occasionally?

If i asked the kids what they did today, they'd say nothing even though I may know that they spent the day with their mum in his presence. The female has her own place and so does he and the first woman wouldn't ask but the second woman might.

So my Sag friend is more pissed at him for being with 2 women than Lying??

I don't exactly condone his behaviour but am of the opinion your sag friend should mind her own business.

You both are operating with "if's" here.

My Sag friend does not give too hoots about the context of the lies. It's the fact that he lied to her face knowing she hates liars and so does he and she has proof he is lying.

So, it's really not about the children, they are just a vehicle through which to express the sag's triggered behaviour.

I get it, i really do, noone likes a lying friend, but objectively the options of him telling you both the truth and the friendly relationship with you two staying as it is are pretty slim. On the other hand, he obviously wanted the second woman.

So, if he can't tell you about both the women without getting into "trouble" he would hide it. The end result of the actions he undertook to satisfy his "thirst" is the same, you two are pissed, but the option he took at least has him having some fun while the charade lasts keeping your friendship alive as opposed to telling you both straight up and risking the friendship falling apart that instant.

This is largely a case of having your cake and eating it too. Somewhat failing at it tho, but such is the fate of people who try to sit on two stools in most cases.

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You've worded that well and thank you for your input..

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I don’t get this?

So your aqua is a male who has been lying about who he’s dating?

How’s that anybody’s business?

As an aqua, I don’t care how long we’ve been friends or if we’re tied to the hip, if I don’t want to divulge certain details of my life then I won’t. It doesn’t give you an automatic right to know every detail simply because we’re friends.

True. But would you happily lie to your close friend knowing they hate lying and the aqua has always said that he can't lie and hates liars?

If the roles were reversed, he would have dusted the Sag off for lying.

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Curious, but what is he lying about?

Thought someone would ask.

He is seeing someone and has been for months on the quiet. She got out of a marriage and less than 6 months they are together..he was seeing someone else at the same time prior and that person asked and was told nothing was going on.

Sure, maybe it's not anyone's business but there are children involved who have been taught to lie or to just keep their mouth shut.

Hmm I'm confused, so aqua guy is seeing two people at the same time? While being married or?

And the children are seeing the women?

If so, yes that's bad business

Not married. He has child. She has children. And another woman in the mix yes.

Maybe they have an open relationship? Or he is afraid to tell you guys what's going on because you wouldn't understand.

Did you talk to the woman in the mix? What was her view?

You can't really judge a situation of you don't have all the details.

Anyway, if he is you and your Sag best friend he should be honest and open about everything otherwise he's not a real friend.

I don't think she is aware there is a woman in the mix and the woman in the mix is upset because she has fallen for him.

He is not ready for a relationship and I'm sure both women know that and that is why it's on the quiet. I do know the whole situation but it's the lying more than anything and my Sag friend is devo. She misses him but he hasn't attempted to apologise for his lying.

“He is not ready for a relationship and I'm sure both women know that “

So he is not really in a relationship with anyone of them?

This is true and I'm sure they both know that.

But I never said relationship. Seeing each other, yes but that's it but it's more the lying. No one cares what's going on anymore because it's been so long that it can't be hidden. It's the pile of lies being told and I thought Aquas didn't lie??

I am sorry I just don’t understand it.

If a friend of mine has to lie to me because he doesn’t want me to find about his private life I wouldn’t be upset about it. I will respect it and understand his reason for it.

I can see where u are coming from but I think initially it was the fact that he was doing this to the first woman because she is good friends with her. The second woman was friends with the Sag ages ago but the Sag broke contact because she betrayed her trust and I think she feels the guy is blinded by this second woman and her character and that she is bad news.

Perhaps he knew if he let the Sag know what was going on, she would break friendship with him because of her ability to break trust in friends but now the friendship is gone purely because of the extent of the lies.

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I can understand why he didn’t tell the sag friend. She wouldn’t understand him. He can have sex with whoever he choose if he is not in a relationship with anyone.

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I don’t get this?

So your aqua is a male who has been lying about who he’s dating?

How’s that anybody’s business?

As an aqua, I don’t care how long we’ve been friends or if we’re tied to the hip, if I don’t want to divulge certain details of my life then I won’t. It doesn’t give you an automatic right to know every detail simply because we’re friends.

True. But would you happily lie to your close friend knowing they hate lying and the aqua has always said that he can't lie and hates liars?

If the roles were reversed, he would have dusted the Sag off for lying.

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How do you know he’s happy while lying?

Hmmmm. I'm a Sag, so I will just voice my opinion. Why do you guys care what's going on in his love life?

It's no ones business but his own. Unless he's having sex with one of you and playing you, you shouldn't be too involved in what he's doing. He;s a grown man and the women involved will figure out what they want/ need from him and go from there. He won't be able to keep up the lie for long.

You guys are just 2 friends that should be accepting him as he is, not where he puts his dick at. That's his to worry about. If he's lying to you, it just means he doesn't want you in his business. He's gonna do what he wants and doesn't need to hear grief about it from his 2 best friends. He's avoiding the drama of it all.

Are you guys his friend or the 2 women that he's seeing? The women will figure out what's going on, they always do. It will be your choice whether you want to lose a friend over his private matters.

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I don’t get this?

So your aqua is a male who has been lying about who he’s dating?

How’s that anybody’s business?

As an aqua, I don’t care how long we’ve been friends or if we’re tied to the hip, if I don’t want to divulge certain details of my life then I won’t. It doesn’t give you an automatic right to know every detail simply because we’re friends.

True. But would you happily lie to your close friend knowing they hate lying and the aqua has always said that he can't lie and hates liars?

If the roles were reversed, he would have dusted the Sag off for lying.

How do you know he’s happy while lying?

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I don't believe he is and I believe he is starting to feel guilt.

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Hmmmm. I'm a Sag, so I will just voice my opinion. Why do you guys care what's going on in his love life?

It's no ones business but his own. Unless he's having sex with one of you and playing you, you shouldn't be too involved in what he's doing. He;s a grown man and the women involved will figure out what they want/ need from him and go from there. He won't be able to keep up the lie for long.

You guys are just 2 friends that should be accepting him as he is, not where he puts his dick at. That's his to worry about. If he's lying to you, it just means he doesn't want you in his business. He's gonna do what he wants and doesn't need to hear grief about it from his 2 best friends. He's avoiding the drama of it all.

Are you guys his friend or the 2 women that he's seeing? The women will figure out what's going on, they always do. It will be your choice whether you want to lose a friend over his private matters.

Truth be told...

I was the first woman but now have removed myself intimately. The Sag is not the other.

One thing to consider is you don’t know what arrangements he has with these women. Like you previously said, he’s not the relationship type. It’s very possible they agreed to keep the fwb situation private, especially since they have young kids.

You prying into his sex life puts him in an uncomfortable place if he’s already agreed to keep it private.

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Hmmmm. I'm a Sag, so I will just voice my opinion. Why do you guys care what's going on in his love life?

It's no ones business but his own. Unless he's having sex with one of you and playing you, you shouldn't be too involved in what he's doing. He;s a grown man and the women involved will figure out what they want/ need from him and go from there. He won't be able to keep up the lie for long.

You guys are just 2 friends that should be accepting him as he is, not where he puts his dick at. That's his to worry about. If he's lying to you, it just means he doesn't want you in his business. He's gonna do what he wants and doesn't need to hear grief about it from his 2 best friends. He's avoiding the drama of it all.

Are you guys his friend or the 2 women that he's seeing? The women will figure out what's going on, they always do. It will be your choice whether you want to lose a friend over his private matters.

Truth be told...

I was the first woman but now have removed myself intimately. The Sag is not the other.

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So now this makes more sense. The Sag is probably upset that he did this to you then. If she's loyal to you, of course she would be upset about what he did.

But we are loyal and will always accept friends back that want to be in our lives so, just leave it. If she wants to be friends with him again, then she will.

You sure she wasn't sleeping with him, huh? She shouldn't be this upset over it. If she didn't know that you guys were sleeping together, she probably was sleeping with him and keeping it to herself. I'm not the type to have a male best friend and not sleep with him. Friendship and sex is the best. This is the main reason I can't be friends with men. I'm too curious about sex lol

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Hmmmm. I'm a Sag, so I will just voice my opinion. Why do you guys care what's going on in his love life?

It's no ones business but his own. Unless he's having sex with one of you and playing you, you shouldn't be too involved in what he's doing. He;s a grown man and the women involved will figure out what they want/ need from him and go from there. He won't be able to keep up the lie for long.

You guys are just 2 friends that should be accepting him as he is, not where he puts his dick at. That's his to worry about. If he's lying to you, it just means he doesn't want you in his business. He's gonna do what he wants and doesn't need to hear grief about it from his 2 best friends. He's avoiding the drama of it all.

Are you guys his friend or the 2 women that he's seeing? The women will figure out what's going on, they always do. It will be your choice whether you want to lose a friend over his private matters.

Truth be told...

I was the first woman but now have removed myself intimately. The Sag is not the other.

So now this makes more sense. The Sag is probably upset that he did this to you then. If she's loyal to you, of course she would be upset about what he did.

But we are loyal and will always accept friends back that want to be in our lives so, just leave it. If she wants to be friends with him again, then she will.

You sure she wasn't sleeping with him, huh? She shouldn't be this upset over it. If she didn't know that you guys were sleeping together, she probably was sleeping with him and keeping it to herself. I'm not the type to have a male best friend and not sleep with him. Friendship and sex is the best. This is the main reason I can't be friends with men. I'm too curious about sex lol

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She knew I was sleeping with him cos he told her about 6 months in. She swears she never slept with him and I believe her. She is a straight shooter and says it how it is. I did question her several times but she's never faulted.

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Hmmmm. I'm a Sag, so I will just voice my opinion. Why do you guys care what's going on in his love life?

It's no ones business but his own. Unless he's having sex with one of you and playing you, you shouldn't be too involved in what he's doing. He;s a grown man and the women involved will figure out what they want/ need from him and go from there. He won't be able to keep up the lie for long.

You guys are just 2 friends that should be accepting him as he is, not where he puts his dick at. That's his to worry about. If he's lying to you, it just means he doesn't want you in his business. He's gonna do what he wants and doesn't need to hear grief about it from his 2 best friends. He's avoiding the drama of it all.

Are you guys his friend or the 2 women that he's seeing? The women will figure out what's going on, they always do. It will be your choice whether you want to lose a friend over his private matters.

Truth be told...

I was the first woman but now have removed myself intimately. The Sag is not the other.

So now this makes more sense. The Sag is probably upset that he did this to you then. If she's loyal to you, of course she would be upset about what he did.

But we are loyal and will always accept friends back that want to be in our lives so, just leave it. If she wants to be friends with him again, then she will.

You sure she wasn't sleeping with him, huh? She shouldn't be this upset over it. If she didn't know that you guys were sleeping together, she probably was sleeping with him and keeping it to herself. I'm not the type to have a male best friend and not sleep with him. Friendship and sex is the best. This is the main reason I can't be friends with men. I'm too curious about sex lol

She knew I was sleeping with him cos he told her about 6 months in. She swears she never slept with him and I believe her. She is a straight shooter and says it how it is. I did question her several times but she's never faulted.

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I agree that if she knew you were sleeping with him, she wouldn't of gone there. She must just be upset about the way he treated you then.

Why do you want her to be friends with him again?

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Hmmmm. I'm a Sag, so I will just voice my opinion. Why do you guys care what's going on in his love life?

It's no ones business but his own. Unless he's having sex with one of you and playing you, you shouldn't be too involved in what he's doing. He;s a grown man and the women involved will figure out what they want/ need from him and go from there. He won't be able to keep up the lie for long.

You guys are just 2 friends that should be accepting him as he is, not where he puts his dick at. That's his to worry about. If he's lying to you, it just means he doesn't want you in his business. He's gonna do what he wants and doesn't need to hear grief about it from his 2 best friends. He's avoiding the drama of it all.

Are you guys his friend or the 2 women that he's seeing? The women will figure out what's going on, they always do. It will be your choice whether you want to lose a friend over his private matters.

Truth be told...

I was the first woman but now have removed myself intimately. The Sag is not the other.

So now this makes more sense. The Sag is probably upset that he did this to you then. If she's loyal to you, of course she would be upset about what he did.

But we are loyal and will always accept friends back that want to be in our lives so, just leave it. If she wants to be friends with him again, then she will.

You sure she wasn't sleeping with him, huh? She shouldn't be this upset over it. If she didn't know that you guys were sleeping together, she probably was sleeping with him and keeping it to herself. I'm not the type to have a male best friend and not sleep with him. Friendship and sex is the best. This is the main reason I can't be friends with men. I'm too curious about sex lol

She knew I was sleeping with him cos he told her about 6 months in. She swears she never slept with him and I believe her. She is a straight shooter and says it how it is. I did question her several times but she's never faulted.

I agree that if she knew you were sleeping with him, she wouldn't of gone there. She must just be upset about the way he treated you then.

Why do you want her to be friends with him again?

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Because he always spoke so highly of her and her of him. They are like 2 peas in a pod. They care about each other immensely and I can see how much this is hurting her. He hasn't spoken to me about the break in friendship with her and I haven't disclosed to him I know. She thought he was a true and trusted friend and because he hasn't attempted to salvage it, she feels now that he never truly cared about her.

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Curious, but what is he lying about?

Thought someone would ask.

He is seeing someone and has been for months on the quiet. She got out of a marriage and less than 6 months they are together..he was seeing someone else at the same time prior and that person asked and was told nothing was going on.

Sure, maybe it's not anyone's business but there are children involved who have been taught to lie or to just keep their mouth shut.

Hmm I'm confused, so aqua guy is seeing two people at the same time? While being married or?

And the children are seeing the women?

If so, yes that's bad business

Not married. He has child. She has children. And another woman in the mix yes.

Maybe they have an open relationship? Or he is afraid to tell you guys what's going on because you wouldn't understand.

Did you talk to the woman in the mix? What was her view?

You can't really judge a situation of you don't have all the details.

Anyway, if he is you and your Sag best friend he should be honest and open about everything otherwise he's not a real friend.

I don't think she is aware there is a woman in the mix and the woman in the mix is upset because she has fallen for him.

He is not ready for a relationship and I'm sure both women know that and that is why it's on the quiet. I do know the whole situation but it's the lying more than anything and my Sag friend is devo. She misses him but he hasn't attempted to apologise for his lying.

“He is not ready for a relationship and I'm sure both women know that “

So he is not really in a relationship with anyone of them?

This is true and I'm sure they both know that.

But I never said relationship. Seeing each other, yes but that's it but it's more the lying. No one cares what's going on anymore because it's been so long that it can't be hidden. It's the pile of lies being told and I thought Aquas didn't lie??

I am sorry I just don’t understand it.

If a friend of mine has to lie to me because he doesn’t want me to find about his private life I wouldn’t be upset about it. I will respect it and understand his reason for it.

I can see where u are coming from but I think initially it was the fact that he was doing this to the first woman because she is good friends with her. The second woman was friends with the Sag ages ago but the Sag broke contact because she betrayed her trust and I think she feels the guy is blinded by this second woman and her character and that she is bad news.

Perhaps he knew if he let the Sag know what was going on, she would break friendship with him because of her ability to break trust in friends but now the friendship is gone purely because of the extent of the lies.

I can understand why he didn’t tell the sag friend. She wouldn’t understand him. He can have sex with whoever he choose if he is not in a relationship with anyone.

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What do you mean by a Sag wouldn't understand him?

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Aquas are stubborn

Once they start showing bad traits it's almost too late... Their dark side is exhausting..

Just ignore him / stay away from liars

Stubborn he is yes...I know he has a bad side but he has a huge heart too...he knows I have thought about removing myself from his life but every time I distance myself, he comes back.

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Because he always spoke so highly of her and her of him. They are like 2 peas in a pod. They care about each other immensely and I can see how much this is hurting her. He hasn't spoken to me about the break in friendship with her and I haven't disclosed to him I know. She thought he was a true and trusted friend and because he hasn't attempted to salvage it, she feels now that he never truly cared about her.

Well she's the one who ended it, so she's gonna need to be the one to suck up her pride and talk to him, if she wants him back as friend. smh.

Why would he chase if they were fine before and she got mad and let go of him? What sense does that make?

Things will be back to normal if she accepts him as he is and reaches out since she's the one who put the distance between them.

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Because he always spoke so highly of her and her of him. They are like 2 peas in a pod. They care about each other immensely and I can see how much this is hurting her. He hasn't spoken to me about the break in friendship with her and I haven't disclosed to him I know. She thought he was a true and trusted friend and because he hasn't attempted to salvage it, she feels now that he never truly cared about her.

Well she's the one who ended it, so she's gonna need to be the one to suck up her pride and talk to him, if she wants him back as friend. smh.

Why would he chase if they were fine before and she got mad and let go of him? What sense does that make?

Things will be back to normal if she accepts him as he is and reaches out since she's the one who put the distance between them.

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So I shouldn't get involved??

I think he's waiting for her to come and talk and she's waiting for him.

Both very stubborn..

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Curious, but what is he lying about?

Thought someone would ask.

He is seeing someone and has been for months on the quiet. She got out of a marriage and less than 6 months they are together..he was seeing someone else at the same time prior and that person asked and was told nothing was going on.

Sure, maybe it's not anyone's business but there are children involved who have been taught to lie or to just keep their mouth shut.

Hmm I'm confused, so aqua guy is seeing two people at the same time? While being married or?

And the children are seeing the women?

If so, yes that's bad business

Not married. He has child. She has children. And another woman in the mix yes.

Maybe they have an open relationship? Or he is afraid to tell you guys what's going on because you wouldn't understand.

Did you talk to the woman in the mix? What was her view?

You can't really judge a situation of you don't have all the details.

Anyway, if he is you and your Sag best friend he should be honest and open about everything otherwise he's not a real friend.

I don't think she is aware there is a woman in the mix and the woman in the mix is upset because she has fallen for him.

He is not ready for a relationship and I'm sure both women know that and that is why it's on the quiet. I do know the whole situation but it's the lying more than anything and my Sag friend is devo. She misses him but he hasn't attempted to apologise for his lying.

“He is not ready for a relationship and I'm sure both women know that “

So he is not really in a relationship with anyone of them?

This is true and I'm sure they both know that.

But I never said relationship. Seeing each other, yes but that's it but it's more the lying. No one cares what's going on anymore because it's been so long that it can't be hidden. It's the pile of lies being told and I thought Aquas didn't lie??

I am sorry I just don’t understand it.

If a friend of mine has to lie to me because he doesn’t want me to find about his private life I wouldn’t be upset about it. I will respect it and understand his reason for it.

I can see where u are coming from but I think initially it was the fact that he was doing this to the first woman because she is good friends with her. The second woman was friends with the Sag ages ago but the Sag broke contact because she betrayed her trust and I think she feels the guy is blinded by this second woman and her character and that she is bad news.

Perhaps he knew if he let the Sag know what was going on, she would break friendship with him because of her ability to break trust in friends but now the friendship is gone purely because of the extent of the lies.

I can understand why he didn’t tell the sag friend. She wouldn’t understand him. He can have sex with whoever he choose if he is not in a relationship with anyone.

What do you mean by a Sag wouldn't understand him?

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Not a sag but THAT sag.

She is really judging. He wouldn’t be comfortable telling her his personal stuff.

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Curious, but what is he lying about?

Thought someone would ask.

He is seeing someone and has been for months on the quiet. She got out of a marriage and less than 6 months they are together..he was seeing someone else at the same time prior and that person asked and was told nothing was going on.

Sure, maybe it's not anyone's business but there are children involved who have been taught to lie or to just keep their mouth shut.

Hmm I'm confused, so aqua guy is seeing two people at the same time? While being married or?

And the children are seeing the women?

If so, yes that's bad business

Not married. He has child. She has children. And another woman in the mix yes.

Maybe they have an open relationship? Or he is afraid to tell you guys what's going on because you wouldn't understand.

Did you talk to the woman in the mix? What was her view?

You can't really judge a situation of you don't have all the details.

Anyway, if he is you and your Sag best friend he should be honest and open about everything otherwise he's not a real friend.

I don't think she is aware there is a woman in the mix and the woman in the mix is upset because she has fallen for him.

He is not ready for a relationship and I'm sure both women know that and that is why it's on the quiet. I do know the whole situation but it's the lying more than anything and my Sag friend is devo. She misses him but he hasn't attempted to apologise for his lying.

“He is not ready for a relationship and I'm sure both women know that “

So he is not really in a relationship with anyone of them?

This is true and I'm sure they both know that.

But I never said relationship. Seeing each other, yes but that's it but it's more the lying. No one cares what's going on anymore because it's been so long that it can't be hidden. It's the pile of lies being told and I thought Aquas didn't lie??

I am sorry I just don’t understand it.

If a friend of mine has to lie to me because he doesn’t want me to find about his private life I wouldn’t be upset about it. I will respect it and understand his reason for it.

I can see where u are coming from but I think initially it was the fact that he was doing this to the first woman because she is good friends with her. The second woman was friends with the Sag ages ago but the Sag broke contact because she betrayed her trust and I think she feels the guy is blinded by this second woman and her character and that she is bad news.

Perhaps he knew if he let the Sag know what was going on, she would break friendship with him because of her ability to break trust in friends but now the friendship is gone purely because of the extent of the lies.

I can understand why he didn’t tell the sag friend. She wouldn’t understand him. He can have sex with whoever he choose if he is not in a relationship with anyone.

What do you mean by a Sag wouldn't understand him?

Not a sag but THAT sag.

She is really judging. He wouldn’t be comfortable telling her his personal stuff.

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He always said to me he talks to me about certain thing's and talks to her about other certain things..she says it how it is but he liked that about her..

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Because he always spoke so highly of her and her of him. They are like 2 peas in a pod. They care about each other immensely and I can see how much this is hurting her. He hasn't spoken to me about the break in friendship with her and I haven't disclosed to him I know. She thought he was a true and trusted friend and because he hasn't attempted to salvage it, she feels now that he never truly cared about her.

Well she's the one who ended it, so she's gonna need to be the one to suck up her pride and talk to him, if she wants him back as friend. smh.

Why would he chase if they were fine before and she got mad and let go of him? What sense does that make?

Things will be back to normal if she accepts him as he is and reaches out since she's the one who put the distance between them.

So I shouldn't get involved??

I think he's waiting for her to come and talk and she's waiting for him.

Both very stubborn..

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You can let her know my perspective, but as far as getting involved, nope. We both are stubborn, but eventually one will break if the friendship was that strong.

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Curious, but what is he lying about?

Thought someone would ask.

He is seeing someone and has been for months on the quiet. She got out of a marriage and less than 6 months they are together..he was seeing someone else at the same time prior and that person asked and was told nothing was going on.

Sure, maybe it's not anyone's business but there are children involved who have been taught to lie or to just keep their mouth shut.

Hmm I'm confused, so aqua guy is seeing two people at the same time? While being married or?

And the children are seeing the women?

If so, yes that's bad business

Not married. He has child. She has children. And another woman in the mix yes.

Maybe they have an open relationship? Or he is afraid to tell you guys what's going on because you wouldn't understand.

Did you talk to the woman in the mix? What was her view?

You can't really judge a situation of you don't have all the details.

Anyway, if he is you and your Sag best friend he should be honest and open about everything otherwise he's not a real friend.

I don't think she is aware there is a woman in the mix and the woman in the mix is upset because she has fallen for him.

He is not ready for a relationship and I'm sure both women know that and that is why it's on the quiet. I do know the whole situation but it's the lying more than anything and my Sag friend is devo. She misses him but he hasn't attempted to apologise for his lying.

“He is not ready for a relationship and I'm sure both women know that “

So he is not really in a relationship with anyone of them?

This is true and I'm sure they both know that.

But I never said relationship. Seeing each other, yes but that's it but it's more the lying. No one cares what's going on anymore because it's been so long that it can't be hidden. It's the pile of lies being told and I thought Aquas didn't lie??

I am sorry I just don’t understand it.

If a friend of mine has to lie to me because he doesn’t want me to find about his private life I wouldn’t be upset about it. I will respect it and understand his reason for it.

I can see where u are coming from but I think initially it was the fact that he was doing this to the first woman because she is good friends with her. The second woman was friends with the Sag ages ago but the Sag broke contact because she betrayed her trust and I think she feels the guy is blinded by this second woman and her character and that she is bad news.

Perhaps he knew if he let the Sag know what was going on, she would break friendship with him because of her ability to break trust in friends but now the friendship is gone purely because of the extent of the lies.

I can understand why he didn’t tell the sag friend. She wouldn’t understand him. He can have sex with whoever he choose if he is not in a relationship with anyone.

What do you mean by a Sag wouldn't understand him?

Not a sag but THAT sag.

She is really judging. He wouldn’t be comfortable telling her his personal stuff.

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Awwww ok, this is true. I agree! 🙂

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Because he always spoke so highly of her and her of him. They are like 2 peas in a pod. They care about each other immensely and I can see how much this is hurting her. He hasn't spoken to me about the break in friendship with her and I haven't disclosed to him I know. She thought he was a true and trusted friend and because he hasn't attempted to salvage it, she feels now that he never truly cared about her.

Well she's the one who ended it, so she's gonna need to be the one to suck up her pride and talk to him, if she wants him back as friend. smh.

Why would he chase if they were fine before and she got mad and let go of him? What sense does that make?

Things will be back to normal if she accepts him as he is and reaches out since she's the one who put the distance between them.

So I shouldn't get involved??

I think he's waiting for her to come and talk and she's waiting for him.

Both very stubborn..

You can let her know my perspective, but as far as getting involved, nope. We both are stubborn, but eventually one will break if the friendship was that strong.

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I figured one would break but just needed to give it time. It's been less than a week. I believe the friendship was that strong but I guess time will tell....

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Because he always spoke so highly of her and her of him. They are like 2 peas in a pod. They care about each other immensely and I can see how much this is hurting her. He hasn't spoken to me about the break in friendship with her and I haven't disclosed to him I know. She thought he was a true and trusted friend and because he hasn't attempted to salvage it, she feels now that he never truly cared about her.

Well she's the one who ended it, so she's gonna need to be the one to suck up her pride and talk to him, if she wants him back as friend. smh.

Why would he chase if they were fine before and she got mad and let go of him? What sense does that make?

Things will be back to normal if she accepts him as he is and reaches out since she's the one who put the distance between them.

So I shouldn't get involved??

I think he's waiting for her to come and talk and she's waiting for him.

Both very stubborn..

You can let her know my perspective, but as far as getting involved, nope. We both are stubborn, but eventually one will break if the friendship was that strong.

I figured one would break but just needed to give it time. It's been less than a week. I believe the friendship was that strong but I guess time will tell....

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A week is nothing, I can go on forever until I end up forgetting about you 😄

He's fixed lol He may break before her. This is what I love about fixed signs 😆

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Curious, but what is he lying about?

Thought someone would ask.

He is seeing someone and has been for months on the quiet. She got out of a marriage and less than 6 months they are together..he was seeing someone else at the same time prior and that person asked and was told nothing was going on.

Sure, maybe it's not anyone's business but there are children involved who have been taught to lie or to just keep their mouth shut.

Hmm I'm confused, so aqua guy is seeing two people at the same time? While being married or?

And the children are seeing the women?

If so, yes that's bad business

Not married. He has child. She has children. And another woman in the mix yes.

Maybe they have an open relationship? Or he is afraid to tell you guys what's going on because you wouldn't understand.

Did you talk to the woman in the mix? What was her view?

You can't really judge a situation of you don't have all the details.

Anyway, if he is you and your Sag best friend he should be honest and open about everything otherwise he's not a real friend.

I don't think she is aware there is a woman in the mix and the woman in the mix is upset because she has fallen for him.

He is not ready for a relationship and I'm sure both women know that and that is why it's on the quiet. I do know the whole situation but it's the lying more than anything and my Sag friend is devo. She misses him but he hasn't attempted to apologise for his lying.

“He is not ready for a relationship and I'm sure both women know that “

So he is not really in a relationship with anyone of them?

This is true and I'm sure they both know that.

But I never said relationship. Seeing each other, yes but that's it but it's more the lying. No one cares what's going on anymore because it's been so long that it can't be hidden. It's the pile of lies being told and I thought Aquas didn't lie??

I am sorry I just don’t understand it.

If a friend of mine has to lie to me because he doesn’t want me to find about his private life I wouldn’t be upset about it. I will respect it and understand his reason for it.

I can see where u are coming from but I think initially it was the fact that he was doing this to the first woman because she is good friends with her. The second woman was friends with the Sag ages ago but the Sag broke contact because she betrayed her trust and I think she feels the guy is blinded by this second woman and her character and that she is bad news.

Perhaps he knew if he let the Sag know what was going on, she would break friendship with him because of her ability to break trust in friends but now the friendship is gone purely because of the extent of the lies.

I can understand why he didn’t tell the sag friend. She wouldn’t understand him. He can have sex with whoever he choose if he is not in a relationship with anyone.

What do you mean by a Sag wouldn't understand him?

Not a sag but THAT sag.

She is really judging. He wouldn’t be comfortable telling her his personal stuff.

Awwww ok, this is true. I agree! 🙂

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I knew you would😄

You have to be more open minded to be able to mix well with aquas

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Because he always spoke so highly of her and her of him. They are like 2 peas in a pod. They care about each other immensely and I can see how much this is hurting her. He hasn't spoken to me about the break in friendship with her and I haven't disclosed to him I know. She thought he was a true and trusted friend and because he hasn't attempted to salvage it, she feels now that he never truly cared about her.

Well she's the one who ended it, so she's gonna need to be the one to suck up her pride and talk to him, if she wants him back as friend. smh.

Why would he chase if they were fine before and she got mad and let go of him? What sense does that make?

Things will be back to normal if she accepts him as he is and reaches out since she's the one who put the distance between them.

So I shouldn't get involved??

I think he's waiting for her to come and talk and she's waiting for him.

Both very stubborn..

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I wouldn’t get involved.

If both are your friends you support them separate and try not to get manipulated in choosing sides.

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I don’t get this?

So your aqua is a male who has been lying about who he’s dating?

How’s that anybody’s business?

As an aqua, I don’t care how long we’ve been friends or if we’re tied to the hip, if I don’t want to divulge certain details of my life then I won’t. It doesn’t give you an automatic right to know every detail simply because we’re friends.

True. But would you happily lie to your close friend knowing they hate lying and the aqua has always said that he can't lie and hates liars?

If the roles were reversed, he would have dusted the Sag off for lying.

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Still doesn't make his private life anyone's business, and you consider it lying because he didn't tell you or them, doesn't mean its a lie lol .

TBH this sounds like someone got hurt because someone liked this dude and he didn't feel the same back.. am I close?

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Hmmmm. I'm a Sag, so I will just voice my opinion. Why do you guys care what's going on in his love life?

It's no ones business but his own. Unless he's having sex with one of you and playing you, you shouldn't be too involved in what he's doing. He;s a grown man and the women involved will figure out what they want/ need from him and go from there. He won't be able to keep up the lie for long.

You guys are just 2 friends that should be accepting him as he is, not where he puts his dick at. That's his to worry about. If he's lying to you, it just means he doesn't want you in his business. He's gonna do what he wants and doesn't need to hear grief about it from his 2 best friends. He's avoiding the drama of it all.

Are you guys his friend or the 2 women that he's seeing? The women will figure out what's going on, they always do. It will be your choice whether you want to lose a friend over his private matters.

Truth be told...

I was the first woman but now have removed myself intimately. The Sag is not the other.

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Thought so, you need to butt out.

Sorry I know I'm harsh, but really for your sake, I would stay uninvolved.