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Posted by balblairexactly
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Something is wrong if this keeps happening to you...
No decent man would do this, decent as in his actions not his words signify you are in a relationship
Did you meet his family?
Have his actions aligned with his words.
Where is your mom or an older wiser woman who would've sat you down and explained what a decent relationship looks like.
You coulvde been kidnapped or worse leaving a man's me at 2am...
Stop letting sex dictate your worth.

Posted by LuckyLibra979thank you. i mean i made it clear, is this just casual? im fine if it is just LET ME KNOW. thats all i askedPosted by KittenLaRougeO wow.........that's some disrespectful shit. Let him go he can play with his dick st night. No need to lie about a relationship for sex just be realPosted by LuckyLibra979
O u just want some honesty. I completely understand my bad I thought u were bullshitting at first but him telling you y'all are in a relationship puts the blame on him but then again he was honest in saying he wanted to sleep alone but if he is making proclamations without convictions dust his ass n keep moving or you'll always be hit with a lame excuse
having sex and then having me leave felt AWFUL. omg i never felt so crappy walking to my car in the cold and 2 am and it was a walk. he didnt even walk me to the car. it was awful. never again. i felt like used garbage
Sorry u had to go thru thatclick to expand

Posted by HappyCapperI would too but after I've had my rest 🙂Posted by xtinaOooh no. I would leave, and when I say leave, I mean Leeeave! Fo evvva.Posted by KittenLaRougeIf any man asked me to leave like that I'd laugh in their face and make myself comfortable.
does anyone know how humiliating it is to be asked to leave mans bed at 230 am because he wants to get some sleep and then you have to do the walk of shame back to your car in the middle of the night by yourself and then go home and feel like a piece of garbage and wonder why this man you are dating thinks this is ok?click to expand
Posted by xtina😄Posted by HappyCapperI would too but after I've had my rest 🙂Posted by xtinaOooh no. I would leave, and when I say leave, I mean Leeeave! Fo evvva.Posted by KittenLaRougeIf any man asked me to leave like that I'd laugh in their face and make myself comfortable.
does anyone know how humiliating it is to be asked to leave mans bed at 230 am because he wants to get some sleep and then you have to do the walk of shame back to your car in the middle of the night by yourself and then go home and feel like a piece of garbage and wonder why this man you are dating thinks this is ok?click to expand

Posted by Magenta_AzureYou, my dear, are clearly fucked.
Also, its good to not put emotion into sex. Something so valuable shouldn't be associated with something so disgusting.

Posted by GreyWizi did leave immediately i put my clothes on and left without a word in about a min flat. i'm not toying or trolling. i liked this gem guy and i tried to make it work. the first date was great and then things were deteriorating to this. i'm thinking maybe and ex came back or something to have happened for this extreme change. i didn't allow myself to be treated bad. i left and called him out his bad behavior every time thinking he would get it but he didn't get it. and this last episode, the subject of the thread as being the ultimate end of things. he went from begging me to stay the night to asking me to leave. i cant help but thinking another female entered the pictured and it would have behooved him to just tell me as i asked him many time. i wouldn't have even been mad, i would have just left. i find it weird he had me many times to his house i could show up any time and cause problems even though i never would because hes not worth the hassle to me at this point.
you have some childhood issues don't you? did you grow up without a father—
you need to understand hoe men should treat a woman and how they should not. you have zero self wirth because of all this. you need a massive overhaul. though i feel you are toying with us now...............
why would you stay with a guy that constantly talks about power? the more i hear your story the more i think you are either blind to obvious or this is justa troll post.
you should have left immediaetly

Posted by facerollthank you 🙂
grey lots of people assume kitten is a catfish because of certain things that happened in the past. i've always liked her though. she's always been nice to me. i wish people wouldn't be such asshats to her.
Posted by KittenLaRougeI understand that some unknowing people took this seriously, but even after this post? Really—? I am the only person who actually reads this persons threads AND does math. C'mon people. You should all know better....Posted by ShadowAbsorberi was with one person for almost 8 years committed,, what we had was very special. i have had nothing but this ^^^ since. i feel like i had "my relationship" and that's it. i can't find it again. maybe its me? i don't know thus the thread.Posted by KittenLaRougeYeah, girl. They're always acting like they want a relationship up until the sex, then suddenly it's like you're not even human and without any feelings. I've been there many times before.Posted by ShadowAbsorberthank you. i asked him MULTIPLE times do you just want sex just tell me i wont be mad and i meant it , he said no no no
@sugarfoot but still... why would guys get rude AFTER sex? if they didn't want anything deeper, shouldn't they have been a bit colder to the woman from the beginning? Doesn't that mean something? And even if women should make sure of security if that's what they're seeking, it's really not nice of guys to treat women so coldly, right? I mean, they can communicate that they don't want anymore more, and they should be upfront about it from the beginning, not just AFTER sex, right? Lots of pain. Sigh.click to expand

Posted by SugarfootLeave for good,? Then why does he keep texting me when I said we are over. Dude is a gemini nut casePosted by KittenLaRougeThis is a contradictory statement and it proves what i said before. His behavior has been bad for a while. You thought you were standing up for yourself by calling him out. You continued putting up with it until it got to a level of disrespect that caused you to leave for good which is what he wanted anyway.Posted by GreyWizi didn't allow myself to be treated bad. i left and called him out his bad behavior every time thinking he would get it but he didn't get it. and this last episode, the subject of the thread as being the ultimate end of things. he went from begging me to stay the night to asking me to leave. i cant help but thinking another female entered the pictured and it would have behooved him to just tell me as i asked him many time. i wouldn't have even been mad, i would have just left. i find it weird he had me many times to his house i could show up any time and cause problems even though i never would because hes not worth the hassle to me at this point.
you have some childhood issues don't you? did you grow up without a father—
you need to understand hoe men should treat a woman and how they should not. you have zero self wirth because of all this. you need a massive overhaul. though i feel you are toying with us now...............
why would you stay with a guy that constantly talks about power? the more i hear your story the more i think you are either blind to obvious or this is justa troll post.
you should have left immediaetly
Calling someone out is really just bitching and moaning. Standing up for yourself is leaving people alone who misbehave toward you. Next time leave at the first sign of disrespect instead of sticking around letting them prove just how disrespectful they can be.click to expand

Posted by RamOfPeaceMmmmkaaayyyyyPosted by Magenta_AzureYou, my dear, are clearly fucked.
Also, its good to not put emotion into sex. Something so valuable shouldn't be associated with something so disgusting.click to expand


Posted by ShadowAbsorberKitten and you are the same person... Maybe?Posted by KittenLaRougeYeah, girl. They're always acting like they want a relationship up until the sex, then suddenly it's like you're not even human and without any feelings. I've been there many times before.Posted by ShadowAbsorberthank you. i asked him MULTIPLE times do you just want sex just tell me i wont be mad and i meant it , he said no no no
@sugarfoot but still... why would guys get rude AFTER sex? if they didn't want anything deeper, shouldn't they have been a bit colder to the woman from the beginning? Doesn't that mean something? And even if women should make sure of security if that's what they're seeking, it's really not nice of guys to treat women so coldly, right? I mean, they can communicate that they don't want anymore more, and they should be upfront about it from the beginning, not just AFTER sex, right? Lots of pain. Sigh.click to expand

Posted by KittenLaRouge
does anyone know how humiliating it is to be asked to leave mans bed at 230 am because he wants to get some sleep and then you have to do the walk of shame back to your car in the middle of the night by yourself and then go home and feel like a piece of garbage and wonder why this man you are dating thinks this is ok?


Posted by KoniuchaBecause she had a picture of a woman as her avatar and claimed it was her.
Why does everyone say she is a catfish?

Posted by Koniuchaon her previous account:Posted by DamnataLol ok. I get it nowPosted by KoniuchaBecause she had a picture of a woman as her avatar and claimed it was her.
Why does everyone say she is a catfish?
When reverse image searched, that woman is happily married to some dude and NOT kitten la rouge.
Also she's been 23 for the last...6 years now?
Posted by tamara

Posted by KittenLaRougeGod no! That's horrible.... So sorry for you. I've actually got up n left immediately bc I just wanted a dude for sex and he felt used but that's been years.
does anyone know how humiliating it is to be asked to leave mans bed at 230 am because he wants to get some sleep and then you have to do the walk of shame back to your car in the middle of the night by yourself and then go home and feel like a piece of garbage and wonder why this man you are dating thinks this is ok?

Posted by DamnataPosted by Koniuchaon her previous account:Posted by DamnataLol ok. I get it nowPosted by KoniuchaBecause she had a picture of a woman as her avatar and claimed it was her.
Why does everyone say she is a catfish?
When reverse image searched, that woman is happily married to some dude and NOT kitten la rouge.
Also she's been 23 for the last...6 years now?
Posted by tamara
Posted by KoniuchaIf you read her posts, in the last 30 days alone she has claimed to be in an 8 year committed relationship AND a 5 year relationship with a black man (her words)....so she's been in committed relationships since she was 10.
Why does everyone say she is a catfish?

Posted by thisismylife2015When I read the opening post, I was expecting a storm with comments......... 15 pages later it was still mainly supportive and good advise....... even if it was an irony and a jab (some people who post here are real nutcases, so I thought it was irony from the beginning)Posted by KoniuchaIf you read her posts, in the last 30 days alone she has claimed to be in an 8 year committed relationship AND a 5 year relationship with a black man (her words)....so she's been in committed relationships since she was 10.
Why does everyone say she is a catfish?
Oh, not to mention the numerous times her sex stories contradict everything she says. 2mos ago she was sleeping with a Sagittarius and a Pisces.click to expand


Posted by KittenLaRougeYou told him you'd be fine with being the side chick??!Posted by rampartslol. maybe im a side chick and don't know it. i mean i could easily show up at his house anytime. i also told hey if i am let me know i wont be mad and he said no no noPosted by KittenLaRougeNever slept with a gem. I made out with one once and he had horrible breathPosted by rampartsnot the first night, he was great. but then he got real sloppy, little to no foreplay no kissing just screwing. is this the gemini split personality? i mean really i dont know who his is anymore its like a whole different person has emerged
Was he bad in bed?click to expand



Posted by FinbuffThe only time I would possibly accept that would be if I really knew the guy, the delivery was great...AND if the subject was brought to my attention well in advance(like, yes, you are welcome to come over, but I have to warn you, I have an early day tomorrow, so you can't spend the night. Is that allright with you?). No delivery in the world would suffice if they would inform me of this suddenly after I slept with them.
I hesitated to say this, but I think it offers a different perspective. I have actually suggested for women to leave in the middle of the night, but I did do it nicely and tactfully. It's all in the delivery, and the reason for the suggestion. Personally, I just don't sleep all that well with someone I don't know intimately, It may take many months or even years to know someone that well. (sensitive Cancer) If you have to work the next day in a high pressure environment where performing at your optimal intellectual level is required, proper sleep is s necessity. It sounds more like HOW the guy asked you to leave, than the fact he actually did. What exactly did he say when he asked you do leave him alone? I would always walk the lady to her car, so it's pretty rude he didn't do that.

Posted by KittenLaRougeThis is why I tell you, always be in your home, they cant have any power there. I can also understand why you wouldn't to take them there though.Posted by Magenta_Azureim a cancer moon i cant subract emotion from sex, its doesnt even compute. however what you said about power is interesting. this gemini talks alot about "power. i have the power you have the power. POWER is a very dominant topic of conversation with this guy when it comes to he and i. it's weirdPosted by KittenLaRougeYeah. I don't like lingering. Too much room for a power play like..... Him kicking you out for no reason. Not saying that you should adopt my mental, but I never cuddle, pillow talk, or text my FWB (unless its about dick). As soon as I walk in the door I usually ask, " why are you wearing clothes?". I don't care about your day, you kids, your job. Drop you pants and fuck me so I can leave N go shopping. Period.Posted by Magenta_Azurereally you dont cuddle. but the rest of what you said i agree with
I think it's weird to stay around after you fuck. Idk I'm pretty hoeish tho.
Anyways, there is no valid excuse for their behavior. Nope, in reality it doesn't matter how long you wait to screw. Nope, it doesn't matter that you act like a lady. At the end of the day these guys are pieces of shit. I would sit them down and have a conversation about how their treatment makes you feel. If they seem indifferent or don't seem interested in talking then I'd suggest you bounce.
Men are like busses and train. There's another one already waiting.
Im like this because when I was younger and first getting into sex I had learned the hard way that men are allowed to treat women like shit with no repercussions. If you walk into a FWB as a human being you will get mistreated. Men treat women like shit because they can. People never check men when they are disrespectful or hateful towards women. People always make excuses and assume that its just in their nature. Men are not held responsible for their actions. So when they inevitably fuck you over its always going to be your fault, no matter preventative measures you took (waiting to have sex, acting 'classy', ect.).
Take your emotions out of sex and enjoy it for what it really is. A bodily exchange between two human beings. Sex can be more than just that, but the society we live in doesn't allow for it.click to expand

Posted by cuteboyJust because.you're not like that, doesn't mean others aren't. There are real POS out there.
i dunno. it all seems fake to me. i mean what man in his right state of mind would kick a woman out the bed? unless he's gay and prefer to sleep with a man of course.

Posted by Finbuff
I hesitated to say this, but I think it offers a different perspective. I have actually suggested for women to leave in the middle of the night, but I did do it nicely and tactfully. It's all in the delivery, and the reason for the suggestion. Personally, I just don't sleep all that well with someone I don't know intimately, It may take many months or even years to know someone that well. (sensitive Cancer) If you have to work the next day in a high pressure environment where performing at your optimal intellectual level is required, proper sleep is s necessity. It sounds more like HOW the guy asked you to leave, than the fact he actually did. What exactly did he say when he asked you do leave him alone? I would always walk the lady to her car, so it's pretty rude he didn't do that.

Posted by Vixen2My family comes from the South, I'm currently in the Midwest but my "country" shows now and again. Backhanded compliments galore lolPosted by PandalaLmao!!! I'm in the south...I know what you mean.
LOL @ 'mouth breather"
Bless her poor, sweet, little heart.click to expand

Posted by LadyNeptuneno i DID NOT SAY i would be ok with it. i just simply asked him to be honest about so i could make a logical decision on what to do the pisces was very honest from the jumpPosted by KittenLaRougeYou told him you'd be fine with being the side chick??!Posted by rampartslol. maybe im a side chick and don't know it. i mean i could easily show up at his house anytime. i also told hey if i am let me know i wont be mad and he said no no noPosted by KittenLaRougeNever slept with a gem. I made out with one once and he had horrible breathPosted by rampartsnot the first night, he was great. but then he got real sloppy, little to no foreplay no kissing just screwing. is this the gemini split personality? i mean really i dont know who his is anymore its like a whole different person has emerged
Was he bad in bed?
No wonder he's treating you like a hit it and quit it and kicking you out of his bed. Your not demanding more and sending him signals (saying even) that your ok with being treated that way.click to expand

Posted by VenusStarhe SAID were were dating and i was not to see anyone else nor would he i didnt pull that out of my assPosted by KittenLaRouge
does anyone know how humiliating it is to be asked to leave mans bed at 230 am because he wants to get some sleep and then you have to do the walk of shame back to your car in the middle of the night by yourself and then go home and feel like a piece of garbage and wonder why this man you are dating thinks this is ok?
what makes you think you're dating? You're not dating. Your the hit it and send that bitch home girl.click to expand

Posted by cuteboyhe said he wanted to sleep alone he has to get up at 730 to work but we can just "sleep" together so i too high offense
i dunno. it all seems fake to me. i mean what man in his right state of mind would kick a woman out the bed? unless he's gay and prefer to sleep with a man of course.

Posted by CalmCrab22it was horriblePosted by KittenLaRougeGod no! That's horrible.... So sorry for you. I've actually got up n left immediately bc I just wanted a dude for sex and he felt used but that's been years.
does anyone know how humiliating it is to be asked to leave mans bed at 230 am because he wants to get some sleep and then you have to do the walk of shame back to your car in the middle of the night by yourself and then go home and feel like a piece of garbage and wonder why this man you are dating thinks this is ok?click to expand

Posted by ashley1734uggh the cancer in know at work is a nice guy but ughh, he gets drunk every night and lives with roomates and is 45 the think is he seems happily stuck in his college days he clings to his youth he is SO not what i want. plus he isnt black and i like black men but i am re thinking that
Block their numbers and date a Cancer.

Posted by Greenteawell i hope what he did sits well with him because we are over. he just text me this morning and i ignored him, i guess he doesnt get it that we are over after what he did i dont care if he had a meeting with the president in the morning a gentleman would not have done thatPosted by cuteboyJust because.you're not like that, doesn't mean others aren't. There are real POS out there.
i dunno. it all seems fake to me. i mean what man in his right state of mind would kick a woman out the bed? unless he's gay and prefer to sleep with a man of course.click to expand


Posted by SensitiveBlues+1Posted by ashley1734hell naw.
Block their numbers and date a Cancer.click to expand

Posted by KittenLaRougeSo you told him it's over?...what was his response...Posted by Greenteawell i hope what he did sits well with him because we are over. he just text me this morning and i ignored him, i guess he doesnt get it that we are over after what he did i dont care if he had a meeting with the president in the morning a gentleman would not have done thatPosted by cuteboyJust because.you're not like that, doesn't mean others aren't. There are real POS out there.
i dunno. it all seems fake to me. i mean what man in his right state of mind would kick a woman out the bed? unless he's gay and prefer to sleep with a man of course.click to expand

Posted by Aquistormexactly which i why i ended it. i felt very, very bad walking to my car, the lowest of the low. no one should be made to feel that way especially someone you are dating
I would at least let you sleep there on my bed as long as you'd like or I would move to the couch if I were that picky and let you have the bed. Everything about what he did to you was unethical.

Posted by Greenteadidnt say a thing. he has texted me three to four times "hey baby" since then. i told him multiples times "your will never have an opportunity to make me feel that way again, we are done"Posted by KittenLaRougeSo you told him it's over?...what was his response...Posted by Greenteawell i hope what he did sits well with him because we are over. he just text me this morning and i ignored him, i guess he doesnt get it that we are over after what he did i dont care if he had a meeting with the president in the morning a gentleman would not have done thatPosted by cuteboyJust because.you're not like that, doesn't mean others aren't. There are real POS out there.
i dunno. it all seems fake to me. i mean what man in his right state of mind would kick a woman out the bed? unless he's gay and prefer to sleep with a man of course.click to expand

Posted by blackphaseya i have expectations to be treated right, sue mePosted by Vixen2She shouldn't be messing with anyone until she gets her shit together. She's extremely immature, and will only ever be a side chick at this rate. I mean the girl can't even hold down her position as a side chick cause she's so damn delusional and has so many expectations.
If you friggin continue to mess with that dude after this...then you have issues. Bury whatever feelings you have for him and keep it moving. No contact. I don't care what anyone says....you two have way different ideas on how a s/o should be treated. Even for a side chick...and let's just say he is THAT good of a player...dude is foul and that is some foul shit. He could of atleast walked her to her damn car at 3am if he was gonna make her leave...she is a female. Dude does not care about you...he's a damn liar if he says otherwise. Actions...actions..actions...
*smdh*
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Posted by Vixen2i agree and i dont know if im a side chick he went from making out with me to now he wont kiss me on the lips he only lets me kiss him on the cheek
If you friggin continue to mess with that dude after this...then you have issues. Bury whatever feelings you have for him and keep it moving. No contact. I don't care what anyone says....you two have way different ideas on how a s/o should be treated. Even for a side chick...and let's just say he is THAT good of a player...dude is foul and that is some foul shit. He could of atleast walked her to her damn car at 3am if he was gonna make her leave...she is a female. Dude does not care about you...he's a damn liar if he says otherwise. Actions...actions..actions...
*smdh*

Posted by Greenteahis actions feel like there is another chick even tho he swears up and down. my friend said his "other chick" is weed but im not buying itPosted by KittenLaRougeSo you told him it's over?...what was his response...Posted by Greenteawell i hope what he did sits well with him because we are over. he just text me this morning and i ignored him, i guess he doesnt get it that we are over after what he did i dont care if he had a meeting with the president in the morning a gentleman would not have done thatPosted by cuteboyJust because.you're not like that, doesn't mean others aren't. There are real POS out there.
i dunno. it all seems fake to me. i mean what man in his right state of mind would kick a woman out the bed? unless he's gay and prefer to sleep with a man of course.click to expand

Posted by KittenLaRougeGood, put him on ignore, ice him out and move on. Feck him.Posted by Greenteadidnt say a thing. he has texted me three to four times "hey baby" since then. i told him multiples times "your will never have an opportunity to make me feel that way again, we are done"Posted by KittenLaRougeSo you told him it's over?...what was his response...Posted by Greenteawell i hope what he did sits well with him because we are over. he just text me this morning and i ignored him, i guess he doesnt get it that we are over after what he did i dont care if he had a meeting with the president in the morning a gentleman would not have done thatPosted by cuteboyJust because.you're not like that, doesn't mean others aren't. There are real POS out there.
i dunno. it all seems fake to me. i mean what man in his right state of mind would kick a woman out the bed? unless he's gay and prefer to sleep with a man of course.
everytime he text me i send that this morning i just ignored his textclick to expand

Posted by KittenLaRougeYOU said to him "hey if I am (side chick) let me know, I won't be mad"Posted by LadyNeptuneno i DID NOT SAY i would be ok with it. i just simply asked him to be honest about so i could make a logical decision on what to do the pisces was very honest from the jumpPosted by KittenLaRougeYou told him you'd be fine with being the side chick??!Posted by rampartslol. maybe im a side chick and don't know it. i mean i could easily show up at his house anytime. i also told hey if i am let me know i wont be mad and he said no no noPosted by KittenLaRougeNever slept with a gem. I made out with one once and he had horrible breathPosted by rampartsnot the first night, he was great. but then he got real sloppy, little to no foreplay no kissing just screwing. is this the gemini split personality? i mean really i dont know who his is anymore its like a whole different person has emerged
Was he bad in bed?
No wonder he's treating you like a hit it and quit it and kicking you out of his bed. Your not demanding more and sending him signals (saying even) that your ok with being treated that way.click to expand

Posted by Greenteai really liked certain parts of him so im disappointed. but the being ask to leave hurt too much for me. ill never go back to him.Posted by KittenLaRougeGood, put him on ignore, ice him out and move on. Feck him.Posted by Greenteadidnt say a thing. he has texted me three to four times "hey baby" since then. i told him multiples times "your will never have an opportunity to make me feel that way again, we are done"Posted by KittenLaRougeSo you told him it's over?...what was his response...Posted by Greenteawell i hope what he did sits well with him because we are over. he just text me this morning and i ignored him, i guess he doesnt get it that we are over after what he did i dont care if he had a meeting with the president in the morning a gentleman would not have done thatPosted by cuteboyJust because.you're not like that, doesn't mean others aren't. There are real POS out there.
i dunno. it all seems fake to me. i mean what man in his right state of mind would kick a woman out the bed? unless he's gay and prefer to sleep with a man of course.
everytime he text me i send that this morning i just ignored his textclick to expand

Posted by LadyNeptunei wouldnt be mad. i would leave. why give a guy an ego boost and get all upset over it. i would have simply said "cool, bye" but the fact that he NOW wont kiss me is suspectPosted by KittenLaRougeYOU said to him "hey if I am (side chick) let me know, I won't be mad"Posted by LadyNeptuneno i DID NOT SAY i would be ok with it. i just simply asked him to be honest about so i could make a logical decision on what to do the pisces was very honest from the jumpPosted by KittenLaRougeYou told him you'd be fine with being the side chick??!Posted by rampartslol. maybe im a side chick and don't know it. i mean i could easily show up at his house anytime. i also told hey if i am let me know i wont be mad and he said no no noPosted by KittenLaRougeNever slept with a gem. I made out with one once and he had horrible breathPosted by rampartsnot the first night, he was great. but then he got real sloppy, little to no foreplay no kissing just screwing. is this the gemini split personality? i mean really i dont know who his is anymore its like a whole different person has emerged
Was he bad in bed?
No wonder he's treating you like a hit it and quit it and kicking you out of his bed. Your not demanding more and sending him signals (saying even) that your ok with being treated that way.
Telling him you won't be mad = okay with being a side chick. At least that's how it comes off to me and also to him, and most anyone else I'm guessing.
The problem here might be how your communicating with these dudes...click to expand
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Something is wrong if this keeps happening to you...
No decent man would do this, decent as in his actions not his words signify you are in a relationship
Did you meet his family?
Have his actions aligned with his words.
Where is your mom or an older wiser woman who would've sat you down and explained what a decent relationship looks like.
You coulvde been kidnapped or worse leaving a man's me at 2am...
Stop letting sex dictate your worth.