If You're 40 And Single...

Apparently something is wrong with you according to this article - https://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/still-single-after-40-sounds-suspicious/article20405849/

I just cant today. Good god, people bringing the stupid. Im 39 and never have been married. It's not because I am a commitment phobe or have unrealistic standards. I have been rebuilding my life financially these past 5 years after being economically drained from taking care of a parent.

I was at rock bottom financially and emotionally after they passed. It took me years to get to good place both financially and emotionally. Sorry if I dont want to be a K-Fed clone and scam off women. And not pull a Pete Davidson expecting women to be a personal rehab center.

That isnt the only reasons it's also not meeting anyone within my age group of 30's that are single with no kids. People man and the snap judgements they make.

Some of us dont treat marriage as a nice shiny accessory and want to make sure they are with the right person. There is nothing wrong being discerning.

Also I dont want kids and that cancels out half of females right there. People need to get to know someone before they make a snap judgment like a red flag. It is not black and white despite what media tells you

If we are going to talk about it, I'll tell you whats a red flag to me - someone that has been married more than once. To be clear, I am NOT talking about people who have been married once. Everybody can make a mistake marrying the wrong person the first time. But you expect that person to learn from their mistakes and be more cautious towards entering another marriage.

Let's say even if they got with a jerk or b---h the 2nd time around, that alone tells me they have no level of discernment and are impulsive. But these same dipsh-ts want to tell other people how to live in terms of getting married.

Sorry I dont have marital baggage and 3 baby mamas but I would rather be judged then sit there no peace of mind.

I have much respect for men and women who have never been married by my age. Our society's way of thinking is so f--ked

does it have to be right at 40? lol

It all goes down hill from there!

https://www.businessinsider.com/how-millennials-are-changing-marriage-divorce-weddings-prenups-2019-5

The rate of people not marrying by 40 is only going to continue to increase.

Great. Broken link. 😑

@mrsElleCappysnatch -

Its more out of snark than judgement. Just in the sense of if we're going to be judging, people that have been married multiple times who are non widowed are more ripe for scrutiny than someone who hasnt.

Im not going to next someone for having more than 1 marriage in their past. But I will be cautious towards committing to them And I dont think anyone can blame me for that

I've been trying to have a successful relationship since 16 years old.

I'm currently 38 years old.

I dont know what it is that is keeping me from being in a relationship. I could blame saturn. I could blame alot of things but at the end of the day who truly know why there are some who can find a new relationship around every corner and others who cant find a relationship in the daytime with a flash light.

It is what it is.

Posted by slowdive80

Apparently something is wrong with you according to this article - https://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/still-single-after-40-sounds-suspicious/article20405849/

I just cant today. Good god, people bringing the stupid. Im 39 and never have been married. It's not because I am a commitment phobe or have unrealistic standards. I have been rebuilding my life financially these past 5 years after being economically drained from taking care of a parent.

I was at rock bottom financially and emotionally after they passed. It took me years to get to good place both financially and emotionally. Sorry if I dont want to be a K-Fed clone and scam off women. And not pull a Pete Davidson expecting women to be a personal rehab center.

That isnt the only reasons it's also not meeting anyone within my age group of 30's that are single with no kids. People man and the snap judgements they make.

Some of us dont treat marriage as a nice shiny accessory and want to make sure they are with the right person. There is nothing wrong being discerning.

Also I dont want kids and that cancels out half of females right there. People need to get to know someone before they make a snap judgment like a red flag. It is not black and white despite what media tells you

If we are going to talk about it, I'll tell you whats a red flag to me - someone that has been married more than once. To be clear, I am NOT talking about people who have been married once. Everybody can make a mistake marrying the wrong person the first time. But you expect that person to learn from their mistakes and be more cautious towards entering another marriage.

Let's say even if they got with a jerk or b---h the 2nd time around, that alone tells me they have no level of discernment and are impulsive. But these same dipsh-ts want to tell other people how to live in terms of getting married.

Sorry I dont have marital baggage and 3 baby mamas but I would rather be judged then sit there no peace of mind.

I have much respect for men and women who have never been married by my age. Our society's way of thinking is so f--ked

“I have much respect for men and women who have never been married by my age. Our society's way of thinking is so f-- ked”

Respect isn’t dependent on whether someone is married or not, it’s on whether they’re a good person or not...

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Posted by slowdive80

Apparently something is wrong with you according to this article - https://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/still-single-after-40-sounds-suspicious/article20405849/

I just cant today. Good god, people bringing the stupid. Im 39 and never have been married. It's not because I am a commitment phobe or have unrealistic standards. I have been rebuilding my life financially these past 5 years after being economically drained from taking care of a parent.

I was at rock bottom financially and emotionally after they passed. It took me years to get to good place both financially and emotionally. Sorry if I dont want to be a K-Fed clone and scam off women. And not pull a Pete Davidson expecting women to be a personal rehab center.

That isnt the only reasons it's also not meeting anyone within my age group of 30's that are single with no kids. People man and the snap judgements they make.

Some of us dont treat marriage as a nice shiny accessory and want to make sure they are with the right person. There is nothing wrong being discerning.

Also I dont want kids and that cancels out half of females right there. People need to get to know someone before they make a snap judgment like a red flag. It is not black and white despite what media tells you

If we are going to talk about it, I'll tell you whats a red flag to me - someone that has been married more than once. To be clear, I am NOT talking about people who have been married once. Everybody can make a mistake marrying the wrong person the first time. But you expect that person to learn from their mistakes and be more cautious towards entering another marriage.

Let's say even if they got with a jerk or b---h the 2nd time around, that alone tells me they have no level of discernment and are impulsive. But these same dipsh-ts want to tell other people how to live in terms of getting married.

Sorry I dont have marital baggage and 3 baby mamas but I would rather be judged then sit there no peace of mind.

I have much respect for men and women who have never been married by my age. Our society's way of thinking is so f--ked

“I have much respect for men and women who have never been married by my age. Our society's way of thinking is so f-- ked”

Respect isn’t dependent on whether someone is married or not, it’s on whether they’re a good person or not...

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Absolutely!!

Society seems to expect Everyone to 'Get Married and have Kids" as if that is the big shiny beacon and the ONLY thing there is in life!!

It is truly F**ked up!

There is more to life than being chained to someone like a prison without bars and calling it marital bliss!

Ironically if you had gotten married, statistically speaking you’d still be single. Cause on average marriages only last 7 years.

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Let me tell you what my gripe is with people who are 40+ and single! They have the benefit of having all the time in the world! I envy that. I truly believe you can reach whatever goal you have if you dedicate yourself enough. So if they're 40+ and single and still haven't reached their life goal of becoming whatever it is that they've always wanted, SHAME ON THEM.

everybody will be single in the future. Long term relationships have become meaningless

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Posted by JamesWang

tldr Is why you are single

I didn’t read it either. Lmao

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Shady af 🙄🤣

Posted by Ceviche

Fam, 40 is the new 28 🙏

I totally agree.

Meh...who cares.

Are you currently happy? If so, that's all that matters. In the end...you'll only have yourself anyway. 🤷🏼‍♀️

The real problem is if you are 40, single, and truly intelligent yet didn't pass it on.

Tbh my only true fear is the intelligent side of the human gene will stop reproducing, and only the fat unhealthy side will continue to reproduce.

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Posted by SassyKiwi

Let me tell you what my gripe is with people who are 40+ and single! They have the benefit of having all the time in the world! I envy that. I truly believe you can reach whatever goal you have if you dedicate yourself enough. So if they're 40+ and single and still haven't reached their life goal of becoming whatever it is that they've always wanted, SHAME ON THEM.

Why shame on them when their life have been slowly processing it?

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I wasn't being serious. I personally feel I don't have enough time in a day so I am envious of those who do but don't understand those who don't take advantage of it. I want to achieve so many goals in terms of career, further academic success and traveling the world however my desire to be in a marriage and have loads of babies is also strong so I'm caught in the middle x_x I don't know what exactly to do and am taking things as life is throwing at me atm. So I sometimes wonder if my life would be much more different if I didn't have that innate time consuming desire of needing a life partner and lots of babies (result of growing up in a small family), I'd definitely have a lot more time to myself.

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Posted by hydorah

everybody will be single in the future. Long term relationships have become meaningless

I read a statistic that 40% of 18-32 year olds in Japan are virgins

damn millinials and generation z are ruining EVERYTHING

Or few between them are asexual that aren't desire to have sex and doesn't need to unvirgin to do that. No need to shame.

Nah they all just hentai addicted gamers.

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Seems to be an upsurge in game, porn and weed addiction which must affect the ability to connect with others on a deeper level....

Nothing wrong at all with being single if you aren't finding what you are looking for. Single and being in a relationship are both choices that people make based on life situations. For example, some people want to be single and happy but they can't because they need someone to pay their bills. Some people want to be in a relationship but they can't find a single person to connect with. Choices, choices all choices.

I was in a relationship for half my life and married to him for 11 years. Now we are divorced.

I’m still single and it’s not an issue. I actually enjoy the freedom that I have of not being committed and settling for someone. I need to be with who I want to be with.

Marriage doesn’t make a person. It can still end just like a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. It’s just more expensive and more baggage.

I think once 2 people are in live and want to be together. The impression of marriage doesn’t matter much. People can spend their lives together without being married. It’s more about a long lasting friendship.

Posted by Arielle83

I like being single. So if I get annoyed with this guy, I’m perfectly happy chilling with my Wilma, and meeting randoms on vacation

Aren’t you in a relationship?

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Posted by Arielle83

I like being single. So if I get annoyed with this guy, I’m perfectly happy chilling with my Wilma, and meeting randoms on vacation

Aren’t you in a relationship?

Ya but I’m joking if I get annoyed with him

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😛

The best feeling for me is to have met a good bloke, had a lovely son together who we both raised. Although we are not together, we all still meet up and are great friends.

I have freedom to do as I wish and don't feel like I've missed out on anything

Being a mum was by far the best thing I ever did......being married, not so much but I have no regrets

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The reason I am so fired up btw is this thinking is prevalent when i meet people in social settings.

Ironically women in their late 20's seem to not be judgmental about it unlike the 30 something women I encountered

Good thing though lately is most women freak in disbelief instead where they find out I am about to hit 40 because of my appearance of looking like I am in my late 20's.

That is another problem that other people in my age group can identify with- looking young for your age and getting dismissed by people who are in that same range for dating because they think you're a 20 something.

Its a strange dating world to operate in where women your age make you feel like you're Mama June and 20 somethings make you feel like you're Ryan Gosling in terms of attraction.

Im still dumbfounded by the women who still are gung ho about having kids despite the fact that climate change is going to really screw us over in 20 years.