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I Need to Vent! And Yes its about the Pisces guy again!
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*And now I'm a lonely depressed single mum*
Better than the alternative
Better than the alternative
him being a liar and a cheat has nothing to do with you. he was that before he met you and he'll be that after blocking you.
your emotions didn't scare him off. you even said he wasn't leaving his wife/partner. whatever you did next didn't change the person he already is.
do yourself a favour, toss him away. learn to be single and independent. obviously your former marriage wasn't right either.
start working on identifying and making better choices. it's hard now because you are addicted to this guy. he has done you a favour by blocking you. give it some time. don't chase him. give yourself some time to get him out of your system. he's not the one.
your emotions didn't scare him off. you even said he wasn't leaving his wife/partner. whatever you did next didn't change the person he already is.
do yourself a favour, toss him away. learn to be single and independent. obviously your former marriage wasn't right either.
start working on identifying and making better choices. it's hard now because you are addicted to this guy. he has done you a favour by blocking you. give it some time. don't chase him. give yourself some time to get him out of your system. he's not the one.
You don’t have to take this shit into 2022
“I have a number of people around me who will be able to hear us.”
This says it all.
This says it all.
Posted by LadyNeptune
“I have a number of people around me who will be able to hear us.”
This says it all.
Yes. I know. I meant to say that on my post. He had his dad staying with him. He could have just sent me a TEXT ffs!?
7 years.......? 😯
The military time really carries the suspense for this tragic novella
Posted by -Capriquarius
Because they never leave. They promise you a mountains of gold when it's fucking sand underneath. They say they don't anything to their wife while when you give them ultimatum they stay with her. And they show their ugly fake face to the world, being so cocky they even critisie this kind of behavior. Besides even if they will leave they will most likely do the same to you. They don't have enough pride and balls, it's disgusting. Edit : do yourself a favor and kick this piece of shit in his ass
Yes. And its so disgusting that he even said to me in the last 2 weeks "I don't like what I'm doing but I'm too much of a coward to do anything about it."
🤬😡
Posted by ImperfectStormI have come to realise that had I just RELAAAXED and not expected him to leave her and not cared so much about whether I see him or not, maybe he might have left her.
I'm realising too late that I should have just kept things light and happy to his face no matter how much I want him to be mine!
This is the most codependent, people pleasing shit I’ve read in all of 2021. No offense.
So basically you haven’t learned shit from this. Even after 7 years. Lordt…. 😅
You are way too concerned about keeping him, to the point that you are willing to deceive yourself. Do you know how SAD that is? That’s even more sad than being a “lonely, depressed, single mom”.
I don’t know what it will take for you to learn from this. Apparently repeating the cycle several times… I just hope another 7 years won’t pass by before the lights come on. 💡
And I say this with love and frustration, because I have been there too, to an extent.
I also have Co-Dependancy issues.
Long story l.
Not going into it.
Just saying.
Posted by pooface222Posted by -Capriquarius
Because they never leave. They promise you a mountains of gold when it's fucking sand underneath. They say they don't anything to their wife while when you give them ultimatum they stay with her. And they show their ugly fake face to the world, being so cocky they even critisie this kind of behavior. Besides even if they will leave they will most likely do the same to you. They don't have enough pride and balls, it's disgusting. Edit : do yourself a favor and kick this piece of shit in his ass
Yes. And its so disgusting that he even said to me in the last 2 weeks "I don't like what I'm doing but I'm too much of a coward to do anything about it."
🤬😡click to expand
in other words, you don't matter enough for me to do otherwise.
Posted by pooface222Posted by -Capriquarius
Because they never leave. They promise you a mountains of gold when it's fucking sand underneath. They say they don't anything to their wife while when you give them ultimatum they stay with her. And they show their ugly fake face to the world, being so cocky they even critisie this kind of behavior. Besides even if they will leave they will most likely do the same to you. They don't have enough pride and balls, it's disgusting. Edit : do yourself a favor and kick this piece of shit in his ass
Yes. And its so disgusting that he even said to me in the last 2 weeks "I don't like what I'm doing but I'm too much of a coward to do anything about it."
🤬😡click to expand
Ew. How can you want sex with a man after this? Instant lady boner killer. Need a spine to get it on.
I think when you called his bluff and the fantasy became a reality, he couldn’t handle it.
What a coward. 💩
What a coward. 💩
he blocked you?
can't wrap my mind around continuing to want someone after that.
reminds me of that pisces girl's story about this guy she called who then started pretending he's a woman over the phone just to avoid her 🥸🥸 unsexiest thing in the world when a dude acts like you're undesirable.
always thought attraction must serve some vanity which is why any continuing attraction after incidents like these always confused me. holding on to non-contributors to said vanity seems unnatural. why even waste time when you're a feudal lord.
can't wrap my mind around continuing to want someone after that.
reminds me of that pisces girl's story about this guy she called who then started pretending he's a woman over the phone just to avoid her 🥸🥸 unsexiest thing in the world when a dude acts like you're undesirable.
always thought attraction must serve some vanity which is why any continuing attraction after incidents like these always confused me. holding on to non-contributors to said vanity seems unnatural. why even waste time when you're a feudal lord.
Posted by saggurl88
I think when you called his bluff and the fantasy became a reality, he couldn’t handle it.
What a coward. 💩
Yup!
Piece of effing 💩
Posted by virgoOPPP
he blocked you?
can't wrap my mind around continuing to want someone after that.
reminds me of that pisces girl's story about this guy she called who then started pretending he's a woman over the phone just to avoid her 🥸🥸 unsexiest thing in the world when a dude acts like you're undesirable.
always thought attraction must serve some vanity which is why any continuing attraction after incidents like these always confused me. holding on to non-contributors to said vanity seems unnatural. why even waste time when you're a feudal lord.
Its because he has blocked me before.
Then come back to me. He told me his partner suspects him so he began to block me years ago but without telling me.
So i was confused. And then hurt when i realised i was blocked.
Then forgave him because he has a partner hes trying to leave.
Then never left her.
Having said that I never pushed him to leave her.
Should i have done??
I wanted him to leave of his own accord because he said he wanted me loved me etc.
So i never pushed him.
I didn't want to be responsible for him leaving her because if it goes wrong between us its MY fault for pushing him!
Plus you never pish a Pisces I've heard and read!
Posted by pooface222Posted by virgoOPPP
he blocked you?
can't wrap my mind around continuing to want someone after that.
reminds me of that pisces girl's story about this guy she called who then started pretending he's a woman over the phone just to avoid her 🥸🥸 unsexiest thing in the world when a dude acts like you're undesirable.
always thought attraction must serve some vanity which is why any continuing attraction after incidents like these always confused me. holding on to non-contributors to said vanity seems unnatural. why even waste time when you're a feudal lord.
Its because he has blocked me before.
Then come back to me. He told me his partner suspects him so he began to block me years ago but without telling me.
So i was confused. And then hurt when i realised i was blocked.
Then forgave him because he has a partner hes trying to leave.
Then never left her.
Having said that I never pushed him to leave her.
Should i have done??
I wanted him to leave of his own accord because he said he wanted me loved me etc.
So i never pushed him.
I didn't want to be responsible for him leaving her because if it goes wrong between us its MY fault for pushing him!
Plus you never pish a Pisces I've heard and read!click to expand
idk i feel like you can do better. you're a woman so can't be that hard. you literally have more power in dating. and you can't even always trust pisces men. one time i was trolling and literally a married pisces dude that i shall not name with a capricorn wife started to message me. this dude had actual pics of his wife and child on the page like wtf. i have zero faith in romantic relationships.
this is the ideal, most respectable life style for most modern women tbh. everything else is charity.
Posted by Wizardz_Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by pooface222Posted by virgoOPPP
he blocked you?
can't wrap my mind around continuing to want someone after that.
reminds me of that pisces girl's story about this guy she called who then started pretending he's a woman over the phone just to avoid her 🥸🥸 unsexiest thing in the world when a dude acts like you're undesirable.
always thought attraction must serve some vanity which is why any continuing attraction after incidents like these always confused me. holding on to non-contributors to said vanity seems unnatural. why even waste time when you're a feudal lord.
Its because he has blocked me before.
Then come back to me. He told me his partner suspects him so he began to block me years ago but without telling me.
So i was confused. And then hurt when i realised i was blocked.
Then forgave him because he has a partner hes trying to leave.
Then never left her.
Having said that I never pushed him to leave her.
Should i have done??
I wanted him to leave of his own accord because he said he wanted me loved me etc.
So i never pushed him.
I didn't want to be responsible for him leaving her because if it goes wrong between us its MY fault for pushing him!
Plus you never pish a Pisces I've heard and read!
idk i feel like you can do better. you're a woman so can't be that hard. you literally have more power in dating. and you can't even always trust pisces men. one time i was trolling and literally a married pisces dude that i shall not name with a capricorn wife started to message me. this dude had actual pics of his wife and child on the page like wtf. i have zero faith in romantic relationships.
this is the ideal, most respectable life style for most modern women tbh. everything else is charity.
she is getting what she deserves which isn't muchclick to expand
that's a lot for not exerting much.
and men have more respect for women who are materially-minded tbh. my saturn return coming up. i'm aspiring to become a deeply vapid utilitarian.
Your posts always make me go.
What will it take for you to actually leave this guy? Even if he treats you like crap you end up analyzing what you could have done to change his behavior instead of getting pissed at him for treating you like shit and realizing you deserve better.
My guess is that the talk he wanted to have and then the silence could be that he wanted to leave you because maybe his wife found out and then he chickened out like the coward he is. 🤔😅
What will it take for you to actually leave this guy? Even if he treats you like crap you end up analyzing what you could have done to change his behavior instead of getting pissed at him for treating you like shit and realizing you deserve better.
My guess is that the talk he wanted to have and then the silence could be that he wanted to leave you because maybe his wife found out and then he chickened out like the coward he is. 🤔😅
Hi, local energy reader here. Your energy reeks of complete sad, patheticness. So what will you easily attract? Sad patheticness. Not a single thing will change for you until you stop being so pathetic. You're extremely self-defeating, self-sabotaging and unhinged. You are your own worse enemy. I highly and urgently recommend some deep inner cleansing and healing work.
Posted by pooface222Posted by LadyNeptune
“I have a number of people around me who will be able to hear us.”
This says it all.
Yes. I know. I meant to say that on my post. He had his dad staying with him. He could have just sent me a TEXT ffs!?click to expand
Outrageous. I’d be enraged and then beyond done. I can’t wrap my head around you being so calm at being dismissed and hid by someone who supposedly “loves” you.
If a man treated your daughter the same way the Pisces treats you what would your reaction be.
Posted by Timone
Your posts always make me go.
What will it take for you to actually leave this guy? Even if he treats you like crap you end up analyzing what you could have done to change his behavior instead of getting pissed at him for treating you like shit and realizing you deserve better.
My guess is that the talk he wanted to have and then the silence could be that he wanted to leave you because maybe his wife found out and then he chickened out like the coward he is. 🤔😅
So this makes me think of my next question . How can the wife not know her husband has been cheating for 7 years? What a waste of 3 lives here.
Posted by pooface222Posted by -Capriquarius
Because they never leave. They promise you a mountains of gold when it's fucking sand underneath. They say they don't anything to their wife while when you give them ultimatum they stay with her. And they show their ugly fake face to the world, being so cocky they even critisie this kind of behavior. Besides even if they will leave they will most likely do the same to you. They don't have enough pride and balls, it's disgusting. Edit : do yourself a favor and kick this piece of shit in his ass
Yes. And its so disgusting that he even said to me in the last 2 weeks "I don't like what I'm doing but I'm too much of a coward to do anything about it."
🤬😡click to expand
This is just more lies, if he were that much of a coward he wouldn't engage in an affair (dangerous business), he's where he wants to be and having a woman on the side is just icing on the cake for him.
Posted by IMNOTEVENREAL
What’s your rising
Is the Rising sign the Asc?
I'm on Cafe Astrology and it says Asc.
If so then my Rising is Gemini.
What does that mean for me then?
Posted by geminiflybyPosted by Timone
Your posts always make me go.
What will it take for you to actually leave this guy? Even if he treats you like crap you end up analyzing what you could have done to change his behavior instead of getting pissed at him for treating you like shit and realizing you deserve better.
My guess is that the talk he wanted to have and then the silence could be that he wanted to leave you because maybe his wife found out and then he chickened out like the coward he is. 🤔😅
So this makes me think of my next question . How can the wife not know her husband has been cheating for 7 years? What a waste of 3 lives here.click to expand
I think she Does know!
But - like me - she lost Everything to be with him.
Marriage, family, (2 teenage kids), home, life and security.
For him!
He cheated on her 2yrs in to their rship - its been 13yrs now - and with a friend of hers!?
He told me this recently!
And he cheated on his wife!
And to be honest, ever since I met him all ive heard is "its my Wifes fault. Its my Partners fault. "
Over and Over. He even blamed me for his partner not trusting him WHILE coming to my fitness class behind her back!!!?
🤦♀️😫
I think he has blamed me to Her because she used to smile at me and chat to me.
For over a year now she'll pass me in the street and give me daggers with her eyes.
I only saw her about 2 or 3 times in that year though.
So last night I dumped him by email seeing as he blocked me in his phone.
I don't even know if my emails went throug!?
Good for you! Now make it stick and don’t go back. What’s worse than a 7 year mistake? 7 years and 1 day. Make yourself and your needs a priority now. Make this new year actually count for something. It’s NEVER too late!
You can never go back. Only forward.
It's a new year. Don't bring that shit into this year.
A friend of mine - she's much older (in her 60s but looks much younger and goes to the gym), told me I should tell his partner. To stop him doing it to her again with someone else, If he's not doing it already!
And to show her the text messages.
She was seeing a man (Ironically also a Pisces and cheating on his wife - but she only found out later he was married), and got so sick of him that she printed out his text messages and gave them to his wife.
Another friend of mine said the same thing. She said why don't you try and have a coffee with her and tell her what's been going on. She suggested this so I can give her My side of the story.
I haven't decided to do this but I'm just having a think.
And to show her the text messages.
She was seeing a man (Ironically also a Pisces and cheating on his wife - but she only found out later he was married), and got so sick of him that she printed out his text messages and gave them to his wife.
Another friend of mine said the same thing. She said why don't you try and have a coffee with her and tell her what's been going on. She suggested this so I can give her My side of the story.
I haven't decided to do this but I'm just having a think.
A woman scorned huh??
You are not the “Victim” you knowingly went into this when neither of you were free, you were both married.
Everything you’ve been through, you deserve as “the other woman”
Confronting his wife is pure vindictiveness on your part. If I can’t have him, I’m going to blow the whole thing up in his face!!
Just walk away, you’ve been defeated, take whatever self respect you have for yourself and build a better person and STAY AWAY FROM MARRIED MEN!!! No matter how cute they are or how much chemistry you feel with them!
You are not the “Victim” you knowingly went into this when neither of you were free, you were both married.
Everything you’ve been through, you deserve as “the other woman”
Confronting his wife is pure vindictiveness on your part. If I can’t have him, I’m going to blow the whole thing up in his face!!
Just walk away, you’ve been defeated, take whatever self respect you have for yourself and build a better person and STAY AWAY FROM MARRIED MEN!!! No matter how cute they are or how much chemistry you feel with them!
Posted by pooface222
Present event highlighting how selfish and inconsiderate the Fish is....
HOWEVER..
I have come to realise that had I just RELAAAXED and not expected him to leave her and not cared so much about whether I see him or not, maybe he might have left her.
I've put so much pressure on him - how upset i am. How hurt I am.
I've actually been scaring him off and not realising!
I mean he obviously cannot deal with my emotions when I'm hurt.
I think my pained messages are why he ignores me so much. He's scared of my feelings.
When I'm happy and flirty he's fine and flirty and happy too.
So now I'm regretting sharing my pain with him. Because he has effing BLOCKED ME!
He has blocked me in the past - and I have blocked him too - but now he seems to have blocked Private number calls too!
I'm realising too late that I should have just kept things light and happy to his face no matter how much I want him to be mine!
He is always happy to be around me when I'm light fun and flirty.
And i like him being around me too.
I have driven him away!
I have f**ked up!
And now I'm a lonely depressed single mum 😪
Seriously what the hell are you going on about? You drove him away because you showed too much emotion? Why on earth would you want to be with a man that can not handle your emotion? You are both dysfunctional. Here you are feeling slighted, upset, confused by his behaviour (not sure why tbh because it fits with his approach thus far...) and rather than discuss that and get it sorted so you can move forward, you're passively avoiding him, the subject, he's sulking like a selfish baby because he's "unaware" of why you're feeling less than your usual affectionate self and then you're whining about it over text to the point of getting blocked.
Jesus Christ. Get yourself sorted already.
Jesus Christ. Get yourself sorted already.
Posted by pooface222
A friend of mine - she's much older (in her 60s but looks much younger and goes to the gym), told me I should tell his partner. To stop him doing it to her again with someone else, If he's not doing it already!
And to show her the text messages.
She was seeing a man (Ironically also a Pisces and cheating on his wife - but she only found out later he was married), and got so sick of him that she printed out his text messages and gave them to his wife.
Another friend of mine said the same thing. She said why don't you try and have a coffee with her and tell her what's been going on. She suggested this so I can give her My side of the story.
I haven't decided to do this but I'm just having a think.
find new friends, too.
Posted by sweethearts
A woman scorned huh??
You are not the “Victim” you knowingly went into this when neither of you were free, you were both married.
Everything you’ve been through, you deserve as “the other woman”
Confronting his wife is pure vindictiveness on your part. If I can’t have him, I’m going to blow the whole thing up in his face!!
Just walk away, you’ve been defeated, take whatever self respect you have for yourself and build a better person and STAY AWAY FROM MARRIED MEN!!! No matter how cute they are or how much chemistry you feel with them!
Errr First of All take away your judgement!
HE SHOULD HAVE STAYED AWAY FROM ME!!
HE is NOT Married! He's in a relationship with a woman who left her husband and kids fir Him!
I WAS Married! AND with a 4 month old baby!
He PUSHED me to LEAVE my husband!" THEN Vanished on me when I wasn't leaving IMMEDIATELY!
THEN..ignored my calls.
THEN after a few weeks CAME BACK INTO MY LIFE, and stated the Whole Cycle AGAIN!
Over and Over.
Each time saying to me "Why are you with your husband? Leave him! I'm in love with you!"
I POST-NATAL too!
Suffering Depression.
And had a Controlling Aries husband!
Who Now looks like an Angel compared to this Pisces because at least my husband actually built a life with me! Long-term!
I've been divorced 2 Years now!
Pisces supported me through it.
He talked to me about us having a Life together - THIS YEAR TOO (2021)!
He literally said to me "Its Well and Truly Over Between Me and My Partner."
So Yeah!
When he talks to me like THAT for 7 YEARS - including this year (2021), And about our life together and our kids seeing each other together (his son is 21 though and left home), I'm going to think he's leaving her.
But all the way along the line its been HIM CHASING A MARRIED WOMAN - ME!
And its the THIRD time he has Done this!
His Wife was Married when she met him!
His Partner was Married when she met him!
I was Married when I met him!
We All Lost our marriages to him!
And now I'm Divorced, He hasn't left!
Rant Over!
Posted by StonyPosted by sweethearts
Confronting his wife is pure vindictiveness on your part. If I can’t have him, I’m going to blow the whole thing up in his face!!
This part. This is some "I'm hurt so I'm gonna hurt you" shit. You don't really give a fuck that he's cheating on her because you were fine when he was cheating on her with YOU.click to expand
I Love how you think I'm actually going to do it!
READ PROPERLY!!
I wrote I'm THINKING!
Just That!
Nothing More!
Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by pooface222
She suggested this so I can give her My side of the story.
I haven't decided to do this but I'm just having a think.
Be honest with yourself. Do you suddenly want her to hear “your side of the story” 7 years later, with the hope that maybe she will leave him once she finds out about you? Since you couldn’t get him to leave her??
It’s crucial to be honest with yourself and your motives about this. I find it hard to believe that your intention is to help the wife.click to expand
." I find it hard to believe that your intention is to help the wife."
Intention and Thought are Two Different Things!
I Wrote THINKING!
Posted by PhoenixRising
Seriously what the hell are you going on about? You drove him away because you showed too much emotion? Why on earth would you want to be with a man that can not handle your emotion? You are both dysfunctional. Here you are feeling slighted, upset, confused by his behaviour (not sure why tbh because it fits with his approach thus far...) and rather than discuss that and get it sorted so you can move forward, you're passively avoiding him, the subject, he's sulking like a selfish baby because he's "unaware" of why you're feeling less than your usual affectionate self and then you're whining about it over text to the point of getting blocked.
Jesus Christ. Get yourself sorted already.
I'm trying.
I'm in Therapy. And have been for almost a year.
There's a lot to get through in my head and heart.
The main part Now is wishing he had never come near me, and wishing I had patched up my marriage.
It would have been Far Easier than this Toxic Hell I've been swimming in!
My husband gave me Everything! We built a life together!
Pisces- beyond all his Deep, All-Consuming Emotion - gave me Nothing!
I'm living in a 2 bed flat. Only seeing my child half the time. And I have Depression.
Before..I was married. I had a family. A 4 bed house. We both had cars. Holidays every year that He Chose to pay for.
And he had a great sense of humour, fun, funny, passionate and a good provider.
And I really miss him now.
Hence..
I'm in therapy to sort this Hell out!
I felt
Posted by pooface222Posted by PhoenixRising
Seriously what the hell are you going on about? You drove him away because you showed too much emotion? Why on earth would you want to be with a man that can not handle your emotion? You are both dysfunctional. Here you are feeling slighted, upset, confused by his behaviour (not sure why tbh because it fits with his approach thus far...) and rather than discuss that and get it sorted so you can move forward, you're passively avoiding him, the subject, he's sulking like a selfish baby because he's "unaware" of why you're feeling less than your usual affectionate self and then you're whining about it over text to the point of getting blocked.
Jesus Christ. Get yourself sorted already.
I'm trying.
I'm in Therapy. And have been for almost a year.
There's a lot to get through in my head and heart.
The main part Now is wishing he had never come near me, and wishing I had patched up my marriage.
It would have been Far Easier than this Toxic Hell I've been swimming in!
My husband gave me Everything! We built a life together!
Pisces- beyond all his Deep, All-Consuming Emotion - gave me Nothing!
I'm living in a 2 bed flat. Only seeing my child half the time. And I have Depression.
Before..I was married. I had a family. A 4 bed house. We both had cars. Holidays every year that He Chose to pay for.
And he had a great sense of humour, fun, funny, passionate and a good provider.
And I really miss him now.
Hence..
I'm in therapy to sort this Hell out!
I feltclick to expand
the aries sounds great. what happened? did he cheat? sorry i never really read much from you coz you usually have like one topic and i'm very mercurial.
as an earth sign, didn't you try to work things out? i held on to my relationship so tightly with a capricorn. are you guys just way too proud? what are his placements? and yours?
Posted by pooface222Posted by sweethearts
A woman scorned huh??
You are not the “Victim” you knowingly went into this when neither of you were free, you were both married.
Everything you’ve been through, you deserve as “the other woman”
Confronting his wife is pure vindictiveness on your part. If I can’t have him, I’m going to blow the whole thing up in his face!!
Just walk away, you’ve been defeated, take whatever self respect you have for yourself and build a better person and STAY AWAY FROM MARRIED MEN!!! No matter how cute they are or how much chemistry you feel with them!
I WAS Married! AND with a 4 month old baby!
His Wife was Married when she met him!
His Partner was Married when she met him!
I was Married when I met him!
We All Lost our marriages to him!
And now I'm Divorced, he hasn't left!click to expand
sounds like 'midsummer nights dream.'
capricorns always chasing 'excitement.' maybe that ashley madison stat was right. unlike what most people say on here, i personally feel that his wife deserves to know regardless of your intentions.
but for ffs if he comes running back to you when you molotov his marriage, don't take him back no matter how desperate. is this guy loaded? does he have a huge penis? better-looking than aries? what do capricorns value most from these traits? how do you even trust him?
a pisces sun/capricorn moon guy had an affair with a married libra woman before bumping into me. she kept in contact with her husband even when she was with him and he couldn't accept that. and with me knowing that (even if he was good-looking and was very sweet on me and sending me cute songs, i just could not trust him fully) which made me stupidly take back my cap sun/pisces moon ex (lol i know they have like reverse combos). i really tried but this is a trait that i think most men don't understand women aren't into-well, at least not me. but you completely went the opposite direction.
i'd have seriously contemplated murder at least one time before letting things drop.
Posted by pooface222Posted by sweethearts
A woman scorned huh??
You are not the “Victim” you knowingly went into this when neither of you were free, you were both married.
Everything you’ve been through, you deserve as “the other woman”
Confronting his wife is pure vindictiveness on your part. If I can’t have him, I’m going to blow the whole thing up in his face!!
Just walk away, you’ve been defeated, take whatever self respect you have for yourself and build a better person and STAY AWAY FROM MARRIED MEN!!! No matter how cute they are or how much chemistry you feel with them!
Errr First of All take away your judgement!
HE SHOULD HAVE STAYED AWAY FROM ME!!
HE is NOT Married! He's in a relationship with a woman who left her husband and kids fir Him!
I WAS Married! AND with a 4 month old baby!
He PUSHED me to LEAVE my husband!" THEN Vanished on me when I wasn't leaving IMMEDIATELY!
THEN..ignored my calls.
THEN after a few weeks CAME BACK INTO MY LIFE, and stated the Whole Cycle AGAIN!
Over and Over.
Each time saying to me "Why are you with your husband? Leave him! I'm in love with you!"
I POST-NATAL too!
Suffering Depression.
And had a Controlling Aries husband!
Who Now looks like an Angel compared to this Pisces because at least my husband actually built a life with me! Long-term!
I've been divorced 2 Years now!
Pisces supported me through it.
He talked to me about us having a Life together - THIS YEAR TOO (2021)!
He literally said to me "Its Well and Truly Over Between Me and My Partner."
So Yeah!
When he talks to me like THAT for 7 YEARS - including this year (2021), And about our life together and our kids seeing each other together (his son is 21 though and left home), I'm going to think he's leaving her.
But all the way along the line its been HIM CHASING A MARRIED WOMAN - ME!
And its the THIRD time he has Done this!
His Wife was Married when she met him!
His Partner was Married when she met him!
I was Married when I met him!
We All Lost our marriages to him!
And now I'm Divorced, He hasn't left!
Rant Over!click to expand
None of what you are saying here is anything more that Woe is me, hunny, you are the one that has put yourself in this position. You left your husband and continue to have an affair with a “married man” he might not have said the vows but he is living with her like a married couple. Not only that but you’ve been believing his BS for 7 years including 2021 and you keep believing it!!! And it’s just BS to get whatever he wants.
Only you can get yourself out of this, stop blaming everyone else including the Dxpers who have commented and judged as you say on reading your continual posts asking for advice… none of which you take on board and try to get yourself out of this situation.
Start looking at yourself in the mirror and liking that person!
if this is a pattern of his, it's very possible he has moved on the the next one.
if they'll do it with you, they'll do it to you.
if they'll do it with you, they'll do it to you.
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by pooface222Posted by PhoenixRising
Seriously what the hell are you going on about? You drove him away because you showed too much emotion? Why on earth would you want to be with a man that can not handle your emotion? You are both dysfunctional. Here you are feeling slighted, upset, confused by his behaviour (not sure why tbh because it fits with his approach thus far...) and rather than discuss that and get it sorted so you can move forward, you're passively avoiding him, the subject, he's sulking like a selfish baby because he's "unaware" of why you're feeling less than your usual affectionate self and then you're whining about it over text to the point of getting blocked.
Jesus Christ. Get yourself sorted already.
I'm trying.
I'm in Therapy. And have been for almost a year.
There's a lot to get through in my head and heart.
The main part Now is wishing he had never come near me, and wishing I had patched up my marriage.
It would have been Far Easier than this Toxic Hell I've been swimming in!
My husband gave me Everything! We built a life together!
Pisces- beyond all his Deep, All-Consuming Emotion - gave me Nothing!
I'm living in a 2 bed flat. Only seeing my child half the time. And I have Depression.
Before..I was married. I had a family. A 4 bed house. We both had cars. Holidays every year that He Chose to pay for.
And he had a great sense of humour, fun, funny, passionate and a good provider.
And I really miss him now.
Hence..
I'm in therapy to sort this Hell out!
I felt
the aries sounds great. what happened? did he cheat? sorry i never really read much from you coz you usually have like one topic and i'm very mercurial.
as an earth sign, didn't you try to work things out? i held on to my relationship so tightly with a capricorn. are you guys just way too proud? what are his placements? and yours?click to expand
Hi ya x
Thank you for asking.
Its a long story which I wrote a post about, roughly 5yrs ago when I first joined dxp. So I'll get straight to the point.
First I'll answer your questions.
Did I try to work things out?
OMG YES! For Years. We met in 2003. Married in 2009 and by 2012 I wanted out of the marriage. Why? Controlling behaviour!
Very Controlling!
He would spoil entire weekends together at home by picking holes in everything I do round the house. Insults. Belittling. Trying to make me change to do things His way.
And because I refused to 'obey' he would either insult me and/or go behind my back and rearrange everything I've just done!
He would deny me sex when I wanted it.
Ok I understand that BOTH people have to want sex and I never expected him to just Jump to it and Perform..
BUT he NEVER responded when I came onto him for it. It made me lonely. So I gave up asking.
I ended up being in a horrible situation where we only had sex when HE wanted it!
And I just couldn't bring myself to start a conversation about our sex life because ut would likely erupt into an argument like everything else!
Now..
You asked about me "as an earth sign, didn't you try to work things out? "
Yes. All the time.
I would talk to him about how he speaks to me, how he treats me and how hurtful it is. He refused to accept that he's hurting me and would argue like hell to defend himself.
We got nowhere. His behaviour got worse!
He began to threaten me with..
Eg "If You Don't Do this, then I'll Do That!"
If I told him its not nice to treat someone in that way, he would Mock me using a mocking/sarcastic tone and call me a victim!
Err no I just don't want to be treated like that!
And that's a small snapshot of a bigger story.
He was Angel & Devil.
And I have given you a small snapshot of both sides of him.
I loved him to bits x
And always worked to hold on tight like you did.
But it seemed nothing was working.
I even told him I Don't want babies with you because we will end up getting divorced!
Aaaand...
Hey presto!
Its happened. His control reared its ugly head via Threat and here I am a single depressed mum.
But before you say..
"Why did you have a baby to fix the marriage??"
I didnt.
I worked on his controlling behaviour first. I began to work on changing how I AM around him - because talking didnt work.
Things got better.
So I had a baby with him.
So there it is.
Hope that explains things x
Posted by pooface222
I think she Does know!
But - like me - she lost Everything to be with him.
Marriage, family, (2 teenage kids), home, life and security.
For him!
He cheated on her 2yrs in to their rship - its been 13yrs now - and with a friend of hers!?
He told me this recently!
And he cheated on his wife!
And to be honest, ever since I met him all ive heard is "its my Wifes fault. Its my Partners fault. "
Over and Over. He even blamed me for his partner not trusting him WHILE coming to my fitness class behind her back!!!?
🤦♀️😫
....
This man must have the peen of all peens because I truly don't get his appeal....if the fact that he's involved with someone and has a history of cheating didn't do it, the lack of responsibility and constant whining about his penis going in other women being everyone's fault would make me dry up like the Sahara Desert. Jesus.
Posted by pooface222
A friend of mine - she's much older (in her 60s but looks much younger and goes to the gym), told me I should tell his partner. To stop him doing it to her again with someone else, If he's not doing it already!
And to show her the text messages.
She was seeing a man (Ironically also a Pisces and cheating on his wife - but she only found out later he was married), and got so sick of him that she printed out his text messages and gave them to his wife.
Another friend of mine said the same thing. She said why don't you try and have a coffee with her and tell her what's been going on. She suggested this so I can give her My side of the story....
What "side"? You knowingly f*cked a man that was in a relationship and would continue to do so if he didn't act like the flaky Fish that he is. If you do meet up, be sure to also tell her how you asked him to leave her, plotted and planned to steal him away so she'd be alone. I mean if you're going to tell all, then tell all.
This comes off as bitter because you didn't like the outcome, so stop frontin'.
Posted by ImperfectStorm
Be honest with yourself. Do you suddenly want her to hear “your side of the story” 7 years later, with the hope that maybe she will leave him once she finds out about you? Since you couldn’t get him to leave her?? ...I find it hard to believe that your intention is to help the wife.
This.
So transparent.
Posted by pooface222
As most of you know on here, I stupidly left my Aries husband to be with this Pisces guy and now I'm alone because Pisces guy never left his partner.
Anyhoo..
This time around - after 7 years of "I'm in love with you. I want a relationship with you. I want a future with you" he has driven me INSANE!
The last month or so has been WEIRD! Even HE said to me (2 weeks ago) "I feel weird"
Yet he created the weirdness between us!
Back in October things were lovely between us.
Flirty. Friendly. Fun. Sexy. Relaxed.
However..it all went downhill. AGAIN!
And this same effing pattern has occurred over and over for years!
Eg things being great...then things going downhill.
Over and over!
So..
In November.
Something happened but I don't know what.
He told me on the phone he wanted us to talk. I agreed.
He was going to come over to mine. Then he didnt.
And he didn't explain Why either.
Then the weekend came and he was away with his partner. Silence from him the entire time (usually he texts or calls me).
Monday morning came (15th November), we were at my health club where I teach.
I came upstairs and saw him come out of the gym area. I was going towards the studio. I looked at him with Confusion after days of silence from him and now he's in the gym, not the studio!?
Then he left. And didn't come to my class 🥺
I emailed him with..
"So you've turned up and Walked off!"
He replied with..
"Apologies I can't talk right now.
Are you free around 1830?
I have a number of people around me who will be able to hear us.
Really sorry about earlier."
1830 Came and Went. We didn't see each other. He didn't call me either.
I finally called him around 2200. He didn't pick up. Or even text me.
I was angry. Hurt and Confused!
I don't think he even came to my class the next day at 0630.
He may have done but I can't remember.
And it kind of went Weird from there. Downhill!
So come December, we've barely seen each other, never gone for coffee, he's not come to my classes much, barely called me, barely come to my place, so there he was in my place fixing a cupboard door, and all I could give him was a cuddle.
I felt like I would break. Then we kissed. Then he carried on with my door.
I went to my kitchen to make coffee for us. He then stands in my kitchen doorway slouched against the doorframe looking all sexy and kissable, but weirdly for the first time I IGNORED him. I never do this to him.! I glanced over my shoulder and went back to making coffee then handed him a box of screws to finish fixing my cupboard.
I normally smile, melt inside and go to him and cuddle him and then we go to bed.
I had gone cold on him.
He felt rejected. He LOOKED rejected!
And I only noticed this on my driveway as he was leaving my place. He just stood there..his face looking lost.
And his body language showed stillness. And he said nothing. I finally hugged him but it just felt like an afterthought!
I felt awful after he'd gone because he clearly wanted my affection (and sex) and attention.
And honestly?? I wanted sex with him too. I'm not going to lie.
I'm in love with him x
But I'm sorry..i am effing sick of giving so much for him to expect MORE even he gives nothing!
And now after a few texts and calls he has blocked me!
HOWEVER..
I have come to realise that had I just RELAAAXED and not expected him to leave her and not cared so much about whether I see him or not, maybe he might have left her.
I've put so much pressure on him - how upset i am. How hurt I am.
I've actually been scaring him off and not realising!
I mean he obviously cannot deal with my emotions when I'm hurt.
I think my pained messages are why he ignores me so much. He's scared of my feelings.
When I'm happy and flirty he's fine and flirty and happy too.
So now I'm regretting sharing my pain with him. Because he has effing BLOCKED ME!
He has blocked me in the past - and I have blocked him too - but now he seems to have blocked Private number calls too!
I'm realising too late that I should have just kept things light and happy to his face no matter how much I want him to be mine!
He is always happy to be around me when I'm light fun and flirty.
And i like him being around me too.
I have driven him away!
I have f**ked up!
And now I'm a lonely depressed single mum 😪
I think you already know anything that I could possibly say. I'm wishing you the strength and clarity.
Posted by pooface222Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by pooface222
She suggested this so I can give her My side of the story.
I haven't decided to do this but I'm just having a think.
Be honest with yourself. Do you suddenly want her to hear “your side of the story” 7 years later, with the hope that maybe she will leave him once she finds out about you? Since you couldn’t get him to leave her??
It’s crucial to be honest with yourself and your motives about this. I find it hard to believe that your intention is to help the wife.
." I find it hard to believe that your intention is to help the wife."
Intention and Thought are Two Different Things!
I Wrote THINKING!click to expand
You're getting extremely defensive in response a fairly reasonable question given everything you laid out in this and previous threads (e.g "how do I get him to leave her?"..."how do I get him to finally commit?"..."ladies would you fight for a man to prove your love?").
You're correct, intention and thinking are different things. Thinking and doing are also different as well. The point is, if you were truly moving on from this, have truly learned from this experience and want better for yourself, then you wouldn't even be considering you friend's suggestion. Her situation (if she didn't continue to f*ck her Fish after she found out he was married) is different than your situation. You knowingly continued a sexual relationship with a man that was in a relationship. Therefore, her advice in this context is not helpful to anyone and the only reason you're all over it (aka "thinking about it") is because you feel slighted. You've said you've dumped him, okay then time to move on.
Posted by halalbae
The majority of people dont want free will, they dont want to do right unless compelled. They need direction and rules
He’ll never want you, because youre incapable of ruling with an iron fist. You have accepted your position as bottom tier
So true...some people find the idea of freewill terrifying. Personally i thrive on it.
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Anyhoo..
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Really sorry about earlier."
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I normally smile, melt inside and go to him and cuddle him and then we go to bed.
I had gone cold on him.
He felt rejected. He LOOKED rejected!
And I only noticed this on my driveway as he was leaving my place. He just stood there..his face looking lost.
And his body language showed stillness. And he said nothing. I finally hugged him but it just felt like an afterthought!
I felt awful after he'd gone because he clearly wanted my affection (and sex) and attention.
And honestly?? I wanted sex with him too. I'm not going to lie.
I'm in love with him x
But I'm sorry..i am effing sick of giving so much for him to expect MORE even he gives nothing!
And now after a few texts and calls he has blocked me!
HOWEVER..
I have come to realise that had I just RELAAAXED and not expected him to leave her and not cared so much about whether I see him or not, maybe he might have left her.
I've put so much pressure on him - how upset i am. How hurt I am.
I've actually been scaring him off and not realising!
I mean he obviously cannot deal with my emotions when I'm hurt.
I think my pained messages are why he ignores me so much. He's scared of my feelings.
When I'm happy and flirty he's fine and flirty and happy too.
So now I'm regretting sharing my pain with him. Because he has effing BLOCKED ME!
He has blocked me in the past - and I have blocked him too - but now he seems to have blocked Private number calls too!
I'm realising too late that I should have just kept things light and happy to his face no matter how much I want him to be mine!
He is always happy to be around me when I'm light fun and flirty.
And i like him being around me too.
I have driven him away!
I have f**ked up!
And now I'm a lonely depressed single mum 😪