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Did you marry the love of your life?
No, but my husband married his!
Posted by Undine
No, but my husband married his!
Lmao. Is this something you discuss?
Why didn't work with your love?
Posted by PowerLunch
Oh I see what is going on here
This is the thread where DXP posters pretend they have options
So I take it you did not/will not? Lol
Posted by MadTwins80
I think there is a practical aspect that can't be ignored
You might move on from someone and never find better - Was she the love of your life then?
How do you define love of your life?
I've been with someone who I felt was my soulmate but we never got close to marrying but that was when I was 25 and she was 20. If I met her now I think it would be way more likely to happen
Yeah I think timing plays a part. Why did you guys break up?
Posted by WarAngel
Working on it! 😁
Aww cute.
Posted by GenXgem
I know this to be true for men, most likely. I know many men who handle marriage like a business. Whoever was the best option at best time for them. Feelings are not the deciding factor.
I think it's true for both men and women lol. It's true, a lot men will just decide to marry whoever they are with when they're ready. But women also will feel pressured by age (of they want to have kids) to settle down too. If that was not the case, most people would not marry in 20s/30s. I mean what are the odds everyone met the love of their life at 28? Lol.
Posted by CoffeeAndCreamPosted by GenXgem
I know this to be true for men, most likely. I know many men who handle marriage like a business. Whoever was the best option at best time for them. Feelings are not the deciding factor.
which nevrer made sense to me as a woman cause we really do want to marry for love
this is why i don't trust men. They will woe you bed you throw words at you than settle for some bish that wasn't even a ride or dieclick to expand
Screaming 😂🤣😂
If you were riding for any men at 19 or 21, that's on you, sis. Some these men will use you for therapy and a makeover and then go marry some other girl. Nah. 🤣
Posted by MadTwins80Posted by applecherrypiePosted by MadTwins80
I think there is a practical aspect that can't be ignored
You might move on from someone and never find better - Was she the love of your life then?
How do you define love of your life?
I've been with someone who I felt was my soulmate but we never got close to marrying but that was when I was 25 and she was 20. If I met her now I think it would be way more likely to happen
Yeah I think timing plays a part. Why did you guys break up?
Ask her - she dumped me 😒It was love at first sight but then later on we realised we had different visions for the future . She said she didn't want children because the planet is too populated already (Aquarius 🙄) . Now she is married with child so that was a lie 😅click to expand
Lol at Aquarius acting holier-than-thou and then realising they are only human. 😂
But yeah that's probably a case of bad timing then 😬 especially if she ended up changing her mind after.
Posted by LuxePurr
To me, the love of my life is my son.
I've never been married nor do I believe I am capable of marriage but IMO people should marry their bestfriend. It's cliché I know. Why? I dunno. I'm going back to watching this new Korean horror series on Netflix. Don't mind me. *Exits thread*
Lol thanks for the advice. So you think friendship is more important than passion?
It's interesting because most people will think of the love of their life as the person who inspired the most passion in them.
Posted by LuxePurrPosted by applecherrypiePosted by LuxePurr
To me, the love of my life is my son.
I've never been married nor do I believe I am capable of marriage but IMO people should marry their bestfriend. It's cliché I know. Why? I dunno. I'm going back to watching this new Korean horror series on Netflix. Don't mind me. *Exits thread*
Lol thanks for the advice. So you think friendship is more important than passion?
It's interesting because most people will think of the love of their life as the person who inspired the most passion in them.
You know this is really difficult to answer and you're bringing out the indecisive Libra in me. 🤣
Passion is good but from my experience, passion is usually only good during the honeymoon phase. When shit gets real, one or both parties back out and realize they may be getting more than what they signed up for. But what do I know? I'm not the best person to give you advice really. 😅click to expand
Lol no I agree. I definitely felt passion for one or two guys that ended up being manipulative dipshits. Honestly, I think passion tends to blind people and make them stay in bad relationships.
Posted by PowerLunchPosted by applecherrypiePosted by PowerLunch
Oh I see what is going on here
This is the thread where DXP posters pretend they have options
So I take it you did not/will not? Lol
Don’t mind me I just post here in between power lunchesclick to expand
Ands?
Posted by PowerLunchPosted by applecherrypiePosted by PowerLunch
Oh I see what is going on here
This is the thread where DXP posters pretend they have options
So I take it you did not/will not? Lol
Don’t mind me I just post here in between power lunchesclick to expand
Ands?
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by PowerLunchPosted by applecherrypiePosted by PowerLunch
Oh I see what is going on here
This is the thread where DXP posters pretend they have options
So I take it you did not/will not? Lol
Don’t mind me I just post here in between power lunches
Ands?click to expand
Hahaa I was thinking the same too when I stumbled on that user.
Like he/she said. Don't mind me.
Posted by Jumpin_JupiterPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by PowerLunchPosted by applecherrypiePosted by PowerLunch
Oh I see what is going on here
This is the thread where DXP posters pretend they have options
So I take it you did not/will not? Lol
Don’t mind me I just post here in between power lunches
Ands?
Hahaa I was thinking the same too when I stumbled on that user.
Like he/she said. Don't mind me.click to expand
Haha JJ
Hope it is!! 😀
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Jumpin_JupiterPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by PowerLunchPosted by applecherrypiePosted by PowerLunch
Oh I see what is going on here
This is the thread where DXP posters pretend they have options
So I take it you did not/will not? Lol
Don’t mind me I just post here in between power lunches
Ands?
Hahaa I was thinking the same too when I stumbled on that user.
Like he/she said. Don't mind me.
Haha JJ
Hope it is!! 😀click to expand
Well we'll know when he post his dog in due time.
At the time, he was...
#1 - no, was a rebound & big mistake
#2 - yes, so far.
#2 - yes, so far.
Posted by Piscivore
There is no love, only pain. 😢
................said the love of my life after stabbing me :-p
Posted by GenerousLeebPosted by applecherrypie
There is a twitter post that asked this question. I thought the replies were interesting (links below).
"Most men don't marry the woman they love(d) the most. They marry the woman that is around when they are ready to marry".
I saw this shared on Instagram and wanted some male opinions on this. Is this statement completely false or does it hold some truth?
https://mobile.twitter.com/t0nit0ne/status/980401431281917952
https://mobile.twitter.com/t0nit0ne/status/1182025683763154944
Married/Prev-married users did you marry the love of your life?
Do you think you SHOULD marry the love of your life? I think that should not necessarily be the case. What do y'all think?
This is sad if true, I mean even if a woman gets the guy to commit it is because she was just around when the time was right for him, and not because he sees her as a life partner.
They choose someone who's around, build a family, and then they feel stuck and so they cheat. -_-
I think I'm taking this way too personal but is that really how men choose the women they marry? Can a man answer that for me plzclick to expand
So...... you want a man to answer this ah? Well since no other man not gonna step up to the plate I'll answer.
I tend to choose a woman that has the same identical interests as I have. Forget trust. Since its hard for me to trust. And what I mean by interests I mean she has to have a fond love of music and get involved with my own music that I produce, a woman that loves to eat and fine dining and wine tasting you know stuff like that there. And this why I choose Sagittarius ladies because of those interests I listed. And that'll more likely get them to win me over. I tried cancer but....errp too emo and insecure of themselves.
Doesn't have to be the love of my life...I already met him (he loved me as well but the wrong timing tbh). He could come back into my life even now, ask for my heart and I would hand it over without hesitation.
I need sparks, proper and mutual emotional attachment, love, friendship, respect and patience. My worst nightmare is being stuck in a loveless marriage
I need sparks, proper and mutual emotional attachment, love, friendship, respect and patience. My worst nightmare is being stuck in a loveless marriage
Posted by GenerousLeebPosted by Jumpin_JupiterPosted by GenerousLeebPosted by applecherrypie
There is a twitter post that asked this question. I thought the replies were interesting (links below).
"Most men don't marry the woman they love(d) the most. They marry the woman that is around when they are ready to marry".
I saw this shared on Instagram and wanted some male opinions on this. Is this statement completely false or does it hold some truth?
https://mobile.twitter.com/t0nit0ne/status/980401431281917952
https://mobile.twitter.com/t0nit0ne/status/1182025683763154944
Married/Prev-married users did you marry the love of your life?
Do you think you SHOULD marry the love of your life? I think that should not necessarily be the case. What do y'all think?
This is sad if true, I mean even if a woman gets the guy to commit it is because she was just around when the time was right for him, and not because he sees her as a life partner.
They choose someone who's around, build a family, and then they feel stuck and so they cheat. -_-
I think I'm taking this way too personal but is that really how men choose the women they marry? Can a man answer that for me plz
So...... you want a man to answer this ah? Well since no other man not gonna step up to the plate I'll answer.
I tend to choose a woman that has the same identical interests as I have. Forget trust. Since its hard for me to trust. And what I mean by interests I mean she has to have a fond love of music and get involved with my own music that I produce, a woman that loves to eat and fine dining and wine tasting you know stuff like that there. And this why I choose Sagittarius ladies because of those interests I listed. And that'll more likely get them to win me over. I tried cancer but....errp too emo and insecure of themselves.
So in other words you don't wait for the right time but rather for the right woman.
I feel like this " until I'm ready" mostly happens to younger guys, once older their whole perspective of marriage changes? R u young or older ( 40+ )
if I may ask ofc.click to expand
Aww shucks I know what I wanna say but don't quite know how to word them. I wrote numerous times only to have to erase them. I'll be back I guess. I'm busy
Marrying the “love of your life” 😂 If only life was a Disney movie. If anyone’s being blatantly honest, one is extremely rare in finding AND marrying the love of their life by their 20s/30s out of the average life expectancy of 71. But it’s between those ages that a lot of people have their first marriages. That should tell you most people settle for someone who they think they can reasonably work with in a marriage which I don’t think is a bad thing at all. I’d like to think most people who consider marriage strive to be pragmatic. They most likely understand if they wait too long to find their actual “love of their life” they might have to sacrifice being able to bear children within mother nature’s limits especially if they wish to bring children into a home with parents who are both at the very least committed to each other. These people wanna avoid partaking in that complicated baby mama/baby daddy got a new gf/bf drama. Which brings me to another point, marriage is kind of an overkill unless you have goals of having children or are looking to get some legal benefits. So I strongly believe most people ultimately get married for having a stable structure to bring children into with a reasonably worthy companion.
For me personally, I’m married and in my 20s, sure I’ve had strong feelings for a few guys until now and I really couldn’t define any of them close to “the love of my life” but I currently like my husband and he still has time to potentially become “the love of my life” 😂
For me personally, I’m married and in my 20s, sure I’ve had strong feelings for a few guys until now and I really couldn’t define any of them close to “the love of my life” but I currently like my husband and he still has time to potentially become “the love of my life” 😂
Posted by GenerousLeebPosted by Jumpin_JupiterPosted by GenerousLeebPosted by applecherrypie
There is a twitter post that asked this question. I thought the replies were interesting (links below).
"Most men don't marry the woman they love(d) the most. They marry the woman that is around when they are ready to marry".
I saw this shared on Instagram and wanted some male opinions on this. Is this statement completely false or does it hold some truth?
https://mobile.twitter.com/t0nit0ne/status/980401431281917952
https://mobile.twitter.com/t0nit0ne/status/1182025683763154944
Married/Prev-married users did you marry the love of your life?
Do you think you SHOULD marry the love of your life? I think that should not necessarily be the case. What do y'all think?
This is sad if true, I mean even if a woman gets the guy to commit it is because she was just around when the time was right for him, and not because he sees her as a life partner.
They choose someone who's around, build a family, and then they feel stuck and so they cheat. -_-
I think I'm taking this way too personal but is that really how men choose the women they marry? Can a man answer that for me plz
So...... you want a man to answer this ah? Well since no other man not gonna step up to the plate I'll answer.
I tend to choose a woman that has the same identical interests as I have. Forget trust. Since its hard for me to trust. And what I mean by interests I mean she has to have a fond love of music and get involved with my own music that I produce, a woman that loves to eat and fine dining and wine tasting you know stuff like that there. And this why I choose Sagittarius ladies because of those interests I listed. And that'll more likely get them to win me over. I tried cancer but....errp too emo and insecure of themselves.
So in other words you don't wait for the right time but rather for the right woman.
I feel like this " until I'm ready" mostly happens to younger guys, once older their whole perspective of marriage changes? R u young or older ( 40+ )
if I may ask ofc.click to expand
Um let's just say the right one came to me at the right time. I still ain know how to word what I really wanna say so I shorten it. I'm very secretive about this type of subject hense why I didn't partake in it.
Yes I am.
Maybe there s the right time, but I would wait forever for her, I did not Kiss, have sex or dance with anyone else but her.
Maybe there s the right time, but I would wait forever for her, I did not Kiss, have sex or dance with anyone else but her.
it would be interesting to know how many divorced people answered this on twitter. i imagine most people think they are marrying the love of their life when they marry but unfortunately for a high percentage of people when divorce has come and gone, perhaps they looked back with fresh/older eyes and realised that the person they married wasn't the great love they once thought it was.
Posted by GenerousLeebPosted by Jumpin_JupiterPosted by GenerousLeebPosted by Jumpin_JupiterPosted by GenerousLeebPosted by applecherrypie
There is a twitter post that asked this question. I thought the replies were interesting (links below).
"Most men don't marry the woman they love(d) the most. They marry the woman that is around when they are ready to marry".
I saw this shared on Instagram and wanted some male opinions on this. Is this statement completely false or does it hold some truth?
https://mobile.twitter.com/t0nit0ne/status/980401431281917952
https://mobile.twitter.com/t0nit0ne/status/1182025683763154944
Married/Prev-married users did you marry the love of your life?
Do you think you SHOULD marry the love of your life? I think that should not necessarily be the case. What do y'all think?
This is sad if true, I mean even if a woman gets the guy to commit it is because she was just around when the time was right for him, and not because he sees her as a life partner.
They choose someone who's around, build a family, and then they feel stuck and so they cheat. -_-
I think I'm taking this way too personal but is that really how men choose the women they marry? Can a man answer that for me plz
So...... you want a man to answer this ah? Well since no other man not gonna step up to the plate I'll answer.
I tend to choose a woman that has the same identical interests as I have. Forget trust. Since its hard for me to trust. And what I mean by interests I mean she has to have a fond love of music and get involved with my own music that I produce, a woman that loves to eat and fine dining and wine tasting you know stuff like that there. And this why I choose Sagittarius ladies because of those interests I listed. And that'll more likely get them to win me over. I tried cancer but....errp too emo and insecure of themselves.
So in other words you don't wait for the right time but rather for the right woman.
I feel like this " until I'm ready" mostly happens to younger guys, once older their whole perspective of marriage changes? R u young or older ( 40+ )
if I may ask ofc.
Um let's just say the right one came to me at the right time. I still ain know how to word what I really wanna say so I shorten it. I'm very secretive about this type of subject hense why I didn't partake in it.
well I hope I'm getting it now; someone who prob will impress you enough to make you change your mind or at let things happen organically?
anyways I don't know why I'm here either, I don't even wanna get married and everyday i discover sth that makes me stick to that decision.click to expand
Yeah something like that. Any women who can impress me with their mad skills and I'm looking at music the most is enough to melt my heart. And I'm not one to get easily impressed.
And getting married is something to take into consideration. I usually don't like to be tied down as I like my solitary confinement and freedom too much. But still at the same time I wouldn't mind being the submissive partner.
Posted by Tenpxd
At the time, he was...
Oh and did you meet someone even better or did they change for the worst?
Posted by PuzzlePieces
#1 - no, was a rebound & big mistake
#2 - yes, so far.
Did you already have doubts with #1 or only in retrospect? Why did you marry him?
Posted by GenerousLeebPosted by applecherrypie
There is a twitter post that asked this question. I thought the replies were interesting (links below).
"Most men don't marry the woman they love(d) the most. They marry the woman that is around when they are ready to marry".
I saw this shared on Instagram and wanted some male opinions on this. Is this statement completely false or does it hold some truth?
https://mobile.twitter.com/t0nit0ne/status/980401431281917952
https://mobile.twitter.com/t0nit0ne/status/1182025683763154944
Married/Prev-married users did you marry the love of your life?
Do you think you SHOULD marry the love of your life? I think that should not necessarily be the case. What do y'all think?
This is sad if true, I mean even if a woman gets the guy to commit it is because she was just around when the time was right for him, and not because he sees her as a life partner.
They choose someone who's around, build a family, and then they feel stuck and so they cheat. -_-
I think I'm taking this way too personal but is that really how men choose the women they marry? Can a man answer that for me plzclick to expand
I don't think it's just men who do this. It's both men and women alike.
Posted by LostPisces
Yes I am.
Maybe there s the right time, but I would wait forever for her, I did not Kiss, have sex or dance with anyone else but her.
Aaww when did you meet?
Posted by jeane
it would be interesting to know how many divorced people answered this on twitter. i imagine most people think they are marrying the love of their life when they marry but unfortunately for a high percentage of people when divorce has come and gone, perhaps they looked back with fresh/older eyes and realised that the person they married wasn't the great love they once thought it was.
That's true. There were some guys and gals answering no and were still married to that partner though...
Posted by applecherrypiePosted by PuzzlePieces
#1 - no, was a rebound & big mistake
#2 - yes, so far.
Did you already have doubts with #1 or only in retrospect? Why did you marry him?click to expand
No... not until after we got married. We were young & stupid? He says we were too young.. We got engaged super fast, he rode in on his white horse & made a lot of promises,lol, and then we planned a big wedding for a year & lived together 8 months of it. We were focused on planning the wedding more than thinking about the relationship it turns out. After the wedding reality hit.
I think the problem was I’m from a generation where you go to college, get married & live the rest of your life. Or that’s how we were raised anyway. My first love who I was crazy about broke my heart ( we were planning on getting married) and the one I married picked up the pieces. So stupid 😢
So what is the general consensus? Cause whatever it is we should all do the opposite... try and turn around these high divorce rates lmao. Marry a stranger. Marry your arch nemesis.
Posted by applecherrypiePosted by Tenpxd
At the time, he was...
Oh and did you meet someone even better or did they change for the worst?click to expand
It’s one of those stories ... he’s my friend now
Posted by applecherrypiePosted by LostPisces
Yes I am.
Maybe there s the right time, but I would wait forever for her, I did not Kiss, have sex or dance with anyone else but her.
Aaww when did you meet?click to expand
About 20 years ago I saw her, we really meet a few years later.
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"Most men don't marry the woman they love(d) the most. They marry the woman that is around when they are ready to marry".
I saw this shared on Instagram and wanted some male opinions on this. Is this statement completely false or does it hold some truth?
https://mobile.twitter.com/t0nit0ne/status/980401431281917952
https://mobile.twitter.com/t0nit0ne/status/1182025683763154944
Married/Prev-married users did you marry the love of your life?
Do you think you SHOULD marry the love of your life? I think that should not necessarily be the case. What do y'all think?