Can't Understand My Virgo Man

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I'll try to be brief..... I met my Virgo guy in November and I was instantly attracted to his gentleman like qualities. Our first date he brought over roses, took me to a play and we ate at a great Italian restaurant. I loved every minute of it. Me, being a true Leo adored his pampering and he felt an instant connection to me. We talked about living together, marriage, kids, moving out of state, you name it. He called all the time, made extra time for me, always asked when he was going to see me again and everything. I thought I found the perfect person. ? Now... 5 months later, I have went through everything from his high insecurities, him ignoring my texts and calls, him putting me down and threatening to leave, him feeling like he is better than me, him putting his job before me, him never admitting when he is wrong to me feeling used, unappreciated, alone, heartbroken and confused. If I try to reason with him and explain how I feel he calls me annoying or that I complain to much. I'm a Leo, so I want his attention and now he says I want to much of it. How? We are suppose to building towards something. He has complained about how I dress, my guy friends, he questions everything I do and always thinks I'm lying. Its overwhelming. Are Virgos really thus critical, insecure and mean? He started off a completely different person, or was that just a mask??
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Posted by magma
Unfortunately, you're seeing 2 sides of the same immature, selfish person. It's also unfortunate that if you tolerate a person's shit you'll almost always get more of the same.
I completely understand that which is why I had to have a final conversation with him, or to myself I guess since he completely didn't respond per usual. I told him I was fighting for this alone and he didn't respond so I guess that means we are done. Astrology say Virgos and Leos are a hard match and unlikely to work, but I thought we could just beat the odds smh. I guess not
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Posted by desilove333
I'll try to be brief..... I met my Virgo guy in November and I was instantly attracted to his gentleman like qualities. Our first date he brought over roses, took me to a play and we ate at a great Italian restaurant. I loved every minute of it. Me, being a true Leo adored his pampering and he felt an instant connection to me. We talked about living together, marriage, kids, moving out of state, you name it. He called all the time, made extra time for me, always asked when he was going to see me again and everything. I thought I found the perfect person. ? Now... 5 months later, I have went through everything from his high insecurities, him ignoring my texts and calls, him putting me down and threatening to leave, him feeling like he is better than me, him putting his job before me, him never admitting when he is wrong to me feeling used, unappreciated, alone, heartbroken and confused. If I try to reason with him and explain how I feel he calls me annoying or that I complain to much. I'm a Leo, so I want his attention and now he says I want to much of it. How? We are suppose to building towards something. He has complained about how I dress, my guy friends, he questions everything I do and always thinks I'm lying. Its overwhelming. Are Virgos really thus critical, insecure and mean? He started off a completely different person, or was that just a mask??
Sounds about right. Move on! Avoid that Virgo!
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In my personal experience with Virgo. It all moved VERY fast. We were together ALOT. Went on one month vacay after knowing each other 2 months and moved in together after about 4.

The first night I went to meet my friend, at her apartment an came home after a few hours he went mad. I was a whore and all sorts if I remember correctly, he told me it was over and was delighted at my heartbreak and shock (it wasn't over)

It also wasnt over the other 10-20x he declared it was over. Until one day I shocked his ass and for me it was over. I will never, ever be with someone who tells me "its over" during an argument again. I need confidence security and stability in my partner. From that first day I knew inside I wasn't onto the type I needed, but I was young, hey ho!
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In my personal experience with Virgo. It all moved VERY fast. We were together ALOT. Went on one month vacay after knowing each other 2 months and moved in together after about 4.

The first night I went to meet my friend, at her apartment an came home after a few hours he went mad. I was a whore and all sorts if I remember correctly, he told me it was over and was delighted at my heartbreak and shock (it wasn't over)

It also wasnt over the other 10-20x he declared it was over. Until one day I shocked his ass and for me it was over. I will never, ever be with someone who tells me "its over" during an argument again. I need confidence security and stability in my partner. From that first day I knew inside I wasn't onto the type I needed, but I was young, hey ho!
This is crazy because I would have moved in with him also within the first two months that was the whole conversation we were having an entire life planned in one month. it's hard to believe someone that was this nice to me could change that fast and they always say it's over or never fight for what it is that they want. I swear I'll never date another Virgo again. For all the good qualities they have the bad ones outweigh them

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Posted by blackmoon
Virgos jusy went full on crazy and daring, maybe its the venus retrograde?

Dont demand to much attention I guess, you cant beg someone to stay.. he might be conflicted or unhappy about something and he feels that if he leaves then you have more to lose than him. Make sure that is not the case

He is unhappy about his job so he says. He chooses his own schedule so he chooses to work a 2-11 which is all day, almost everyday of the week. So when he gets off he is tired and annoyed from work. I haven't heard from him all day so I would want to talk, but he doesn't answer the phone. Says he is tired or whatever. I have heard that Virgos are introverted, puts high pressure on themselves and work and loves plenty of space. Completely opposite of Leo. It just sucks because I really liked him, but he's such a jerk


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Unfortunately, you're seeing 2 sides of the same immature, selfish person. It's also unfortunate that if you tolerate a person's shit you'll almost always get more of the same.
I completely understand that which is why I had to have a final conversation with him, or to myself I guess since he completely didn't respond per usual. I told him I was fighting for this alone and he didn't respond so I guess that means we are done. Astrology say Virgos and Leos are a hard match and unlikely to work, but I thought we could just beat the odds smh. I guess not
It's not cause your a leo, He's a pig. Does he have scorpio placements

Those are the worst virgos the ones with water

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Not sure how to tell if he does or doesn't.

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Posted by desilove333


He is unhappy about his job so he says. He chooses his own schedule so he chooses to work a 2-11 which is all day, almost everyday of the week. So when he gets off he is tired and annoyed from work. I haven't heard from him all day so I would want to talk, but he doesn't answer the phone. Says he is tired or whatever. I have heard that Virgos are introverted, puts high pressure on themselves and work and loves plenty of space. Completely opposite of Leo. It just sucks because I really liked him, but he's such a jerk


Pay attention to what I bolded in your sentence. YOU would want to talk, but he didn't always. Virgos, from what I see and read, will disappear from time to time because they need it to recuperate and get mentally back on track. Especially when dealing with stressful situations.

The problem is, because he needs that space, you believe he is a jerk for wanting it. And I get a feeling you end up being the annoying gnat, instead of the place he thinks is "home". What I mean by that is, he should be reaching to you for comfort and relaxation, but you only want to focus on what you feel is negative. Because human nature, seven positives are needed to negate a negative.

I find most people can not logically put themselves in the other person's shoes to see it from their prospective. It's always about how the person feels, first and foremost.

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He is unhappy about his job so he says. He chooses his own schedule so he chooses to work a 2-11 which is all day, almost everyday of the week. So when he gets off he is tired and annoyed from work. I haven't heard from him all day so I would want to talk, but he doesn't answer the phone. Says he is tired or whatever. I have heard that Virgos are introverted, puts high pressure on themselves and work and loves plenty of space. Completely opposite of Leo. It just sucks because I really liked him, but he's such a jerk


Pay attention to what I bolded in your sentence. YOU would want to talk, but he didn't always. Virgos, from what I see and read, will disappear from time to time because they need it to recuperate and get mentally back on track. Especially when dealing with stressful situations.

The problem is, because he needs that space, you believe he is a jerk for wanting it. And I get a feeling you end up being the annoying gnat, instead of the place he thinks is "home". What I mean by that is, he should be reaching to you for comfort and relaxation, but you only want to focus on what you feel is negative. Because human nature, seven positives are needed to negate a negative.

I find most people can not logically put themselves in the other person's shoes to see it from their prospective. It's always about how the person feels, first and foremost.

I agree with you more than I don't. I believe that yes, he deserves his space because everyone does. I have also read that Virgos disappear and that they need time to get back on track. What I don't agree with is him not communicating with me, him giving his time and energy to his friends or social media and not me. I don't agree with wondering what's going on only to get no response. I don't ask for much, just time and attention. If that's more than what he can offer, then my hands are up.



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Sounds like a Virgo cranky and angry about something.

Your beginning sounds like my Virgo hubby and me. I am very detached and am not affected easily by others. So, when he got cranky, I waited 'til he told me what was wrong or avoided him. Then, he'd hunt me down for fear of losing me.
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He said I was the nicest girl he had been with. That all his other relationships they either lied, cheated or were very disrespectful. This past Christmas he said was the first Christmas he had where he felt loved because I did so much for him. Yet he treats me like I'm nothing and that he did me a favor for being with me. Did he forget what his past was like?? I guess its just time for me to remind him what type of girls are out here smh.
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Sounds like a Virgo cranky and angry about something.

Your beginning sounds like my Virgo hubby and me. I am very detached and am not affected easily by others. So, when he got cranky, I waited 'til he told me what was wrong or avoided him. Then, he'd hunt me down for fear of losing me.
I wish I could detach myself that will make life so much easier

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Not that it matters, cause you want attention, but his moods are not about you. He may be losing his job. Regardless, be thankful you're seeing his bad side early. We all have them.
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Posted by desilove333
VenusAquarius..........

Doubt if I see any side of him anymore. I called it off about two days ago. He hasn't said anything, you know he hasn't responded or what not but I'm sure its over. I have heard that Virgos don't turn back, so I'm assuming its the end for us. He didn't even fight or try to fix it so maybe its for the best.
When we were dating, I would run off if he was mean or cranky. Afterawhile, I discovered that he was just hungry. So, I made sure he was fed. A week would go by but, he would return. I figured he was feeling badly about his attitude or, he was trying give distance for repair. He lived in the neighborhood next to mine. He would catch me at the bus stop. I know what dark sides I can handle. He would act better than me but, I know who I am and that doesn't bother me because compliments would still occur. Later and now, he thinks I'm better than him and I have to show appreciation cause he tries.

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I just know, even as a teenager dating, all people have a darkside and bad times. So, I measured what I could deal with versus their assets. My husband is extremely, devoted, hella protective and couragrous. I rarely cry but, if or when I did, or was upset, woe be unto that person... He doesn't even have a roaming eye. And, his favorite person in the world is me.

All I know is he has the right mix of darkness and light for me.
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I'm a leo woman with a virgo man.

I think nikkistar hits the right spot. You're expecting him to love you the way you love, forgetting to see he is a different person with his own insecurities, moods and way of coping with a long day or an argument.

They go all in and then after a while of intensity he will go back to into his mind to figure out how this is all going to play out. Maybe working on plans in his self critical mind to give you the future you want.

For you to be constantly asking for attention and being the me me me person you can be is not going to help the situation and will only make him retreat further and really grow distant.

Me personally I did a whole lot of ego growing up in this relationship, learning that its not all about me, but about us. I would rather be happy than be right.

I learned that not every silence has to be filled, not every thought has to be spoken and not every needy moment has to be adressed by him. Go to your friend when you want some attention, have a thought about a situation call your mom. He is not your soul go to person i assume?

He is thinking about you, he is busy trying to build that future and all of that...he is just not that out there and vocal about it all as you are.

Trust him and try to understand his perspective a bit more
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Posted by SMC
I'm a leo woman with a virgo man.

I think nikkistar hits the right spot. You're expecting him to love you the way you love, forgetting to see he is a different person with his own insecurities, moods and way of coping with a long day or an argument.

They go all in and then after a while of intensity he will go back to into his mind to figure out how this is all going to play out. Maybe working on plans in his self critical mind to give you the future you want.

For you to be constantly asking for attention and being the me me me person you can be is not going to help the situation and will only make him retreat further and really grow distant.

Me personally I did a whole lot of ego growing up in this relationship, learning that its not all about me, but about us. I would rather be happy than be right.

I learned that not every silence has to be filled, not every thought has to be spoken and not every needy moment has to be adressed by him. Go to your friend when you want some attention, have a thought about a situation call your mom. He is not your soul go to person i assume?

He is thinking about you, he is busy trying to build that future and all of that...he is just not that out there and vocal about it all as you are.

Trust him and try to understand his perspective a bit more
Your post makes so much sense and if I was getting anything from this guy I would accept it, but I'm getting nothing. No calls, no texts, no visits. He completely shut me out. I told him to just tell me its over and I'll leave. He says I don't need confirmation from him to do what I want. Wwhhhaattt—? I've been trying for the last two weeks and I'm getting nothing. He refuses to say its over... Like he is waiting for me to end it so I did. And still no reply from him. It sucks because I was there for him and I looked out for him so much in just 5 months, yet he is not there for me. It don't matter what you go through, if you care for someone you would at least tell them something. He says nothing. I can't have my feelings dangling while he goes about his life. Unfair and I won't allow it. Sigh.... as an adult I don't get why he just can't say its over.

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I'm a leo woman with a virgo man.

I think nikkistar hits the right spot. You're expecting him to love you the way you love, forgetting to see he is a different person with his own insecurities, moods and way of coping with a long day or an argument.

They go all in and then after a while of intensity he will go back to into his mind to figure out how this is all going to play out. Maybe working on plans in his self critical mind to give you the future you want.

For you to be constantly asking for attention and being the me me me person you can be is not going to help the situation and will only make him retreat further and really grow distant.

Me personally I did a whole lot of ego growing up in this relationship, learning that its not all about me, but about us. I would rather be happy than be right.

I learned that not every silence has to be filled, not every thought has to be spoken and not every needy moment has to be adressed by him. Go to your friend when you want some attention, have a thought about a situation call your mom. He is not your soul go to person i assume?

He is thinking about you, he is busy trying to build that future and all of that...he is just not that out there and vocal about it all as you are.

Trust him and try to understand his perspective a bit more
Your post makes so much sense and if I was getting anything from this guy I would accept it, but I'm getting nothing. No calls, no texts, no visits. He completely shut me out. I told him to just tell me its over and I'll leave. He says I don't need confirmation from him to do what I want. Wwhhhaattt—? I've been trying for the last two weeks and I'm getting nothing. He refuses to say its over... Like he is waiting for me to end it so I did. And still no reply from him. It sucks because I was there for him and I looked out for him so much in just 5 months, yet he is not there for me. It don't matter what you go through, if you care for someone you would at least tell them something. He says nothing. I can't have my feelings dangling while he goes about his life. Unfair and I won't allow it. Sigh.... as an adult I don't get why he just can't say its over.

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Even after saying my post makes so much sense you continue to talk about how much you did for him..I I I

What you didn't do though is try to understand his mind, because if you really did you would know he is right. You only helped him from your point of view and that's what I meant by growing up your ego.

You don't need his conformation, you're an adult and what he is saying is that you drove your own mind insane by overthinking this whole situation up to the point where you decided he wasn't interested in you enough. If a virgo is allergic to anything it would be another person telling them how it is they are or feel. Maybe influenced by people around you, or by how society dictates how relationships should be.

And he feels that if you decided that on your own you should just go and do that.

He is not a man that lives by the standards of society and never will. He will also never be as emotional as you want him to be, because he is ruled mainly by his head and prefers to deal with things/emotions from a logical point of view.

You shouldn't have your feelings dangling you're right about that, you should keep them under control and figure out when it is appropriate to show them.

Not everyone likes all of your feelings all over the place all of the time. And it's fine that you are this way, not saying it isn't, but in dealing with a virgo you'd be wise to take more consideration about that.

But I can tell you're far from that point in your life, so it might be best to let him go at this point.

My experience though is that if he says something, he will follow through on it. You just have to be patient because it takes time with them.

If he said he wants to marry, move in, have children, then that will happen. Just not always in the way you want it.

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SMC.........

I believe that he is over whelmed with how emotional I am and I am drained by how unemotional he is. I do believe he cares for me but you are right, I believe I want him to care in the way that I want him to. We both saw that early in our relationship that we want different things from each other and we both express love differently, though we haven't said I love you yet. Tonight was our final straw for each other I think. He said we will talk, but of course I wanted to talk at that moment. Its been almost two weeks with barely any communication. I told him we are losing our connection and I'm emotional drained and starting to give up. He said can I stop because he don't want to fight with me. However he is still not talking to me. How can we fix anything with no communication?? I think at this point I have to let go.... Because I haven't fully grasp the Virgo concept and he can't really understand my Leo concept. He is mental and I am emotional and until we can learn to adapt... Its no point for either of us.
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I think we are both worth the same amount of effort. It shouldn't be a one sided relationship. Even me joining this site to get input on my relationship is showing that I'm still trying to figure things out. Whereas I'm 100% sure that he is somewhere not thinking twice about it. It hurts and sucks equally, but I can't be the only one trying. He ignores every call and every text I send. But he refuses to just say its over. I'm just going to honestly let go...... Give him his space, but I won't wait. I have to move on with my life because dealing with this man I have learned that I could honestly be waiting forever.
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I completely missed this text because you didn't quote me

Haven't said I love you yet..did say you wanted to get married and have kids though..To me as a leo that would mean I'm serious enough to start trying to understand my relationship better since that's not something I would say to anyone.

anyway you need to do what you need to do, good luck^^
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Posted by SMC
I completely missed this text because you didn't quote me

Haven't said I love you yet..did say you wanted to get married and have kids though..To me as a leo that would mean I'm serious enough to start trying to understand my relationship better since that's not something I would say to anyone.

anyway you need to do what you need to do, good luck^^
Right neither one of us said I love you. Well.... I think he did once or twice while I was sleep. I asked him about it and he said huh?? And started acting dorky then he asked if I loved him? It was weird so I left it alone all together. He planned our life out together in the beginning, not me. I actually was not as excited about it as he was initially. Then after I told him to slow down, he took 10 steps back instead of one. In the beginning we had a slip up, condom broke and I immediately said I need the pill. Wasn't ready and we had honestly just met. He was bummed, but agreed. Then I told him another time after we stopped with condoms that I could be preggo and he was overjoyed. Now......... He doesn't even want to talk about kids. Says that's future talk and we don't need to worry about that. Total flip. Like every other part of his attitude. Completely changed. At this point we don't understand each other. At least I'm trying...... He isn't. Like at all. So I am left with no choice.
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op i have to agree with @SMC on this one,

im a Leo also dating a virgo whom i love so much. At first we were addicted to each other. He always wanted to see me and always text me and all the good stuff, we were both very smitten. After a month all of that changed. Things just got serious. He is very different in the way he expresses himself and i constantly wanted attention but thats not the way it works with virgos. My virgo too ignored me and disappeared for a couple of weeks. He came back though and when he did he told me he thought about me everyday we didn't talk and he expected me to go see him at work (even though he ignored me?). Ive learned that you cant have an ego with the virgo man because he already is unsure of himself. You have to be loving and gentle always. When a virgo starts to get their way they can be self sabotaging and when he is the weak one you have to be the strong one because trust me, you will have doubts too and he will be the strong one. When my virgo came back he said he was ready to fully commit to me and i forgave him. He also asked me to be patient with his communication which is something i knew he had problems with. I care for him deeply and as a leo we are very forgiving and patient to the ones we truly love. I know OP you have it in you to be a loving patient woman and you should be because it is totally worth it. A virgo man will teach you to not only think about yourself, he will make you want to be a better person and in return he will always have your back. As a leo you need to be stable and not insecure just because he doesn't text you. Trust me he is thinking about you and he will come around when he is ready and he will apologize and try to make things better, just let him be for now or you'll really push him away.

Also when he decides to come back dont be a cold leo. Leos give the cold shoulder with no problem but you cannot do that with the virgo. He needs reassurance and i know so do you but he will come back and give you the reassurance you need so always make sure you give it right back. Again lose the ego.
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op i have to agree with @SMC on this one,

im a Leo also dating a virgo whom i love so much. At first we were addicted to each other. He always wanted to see me and always text me and all the good stuff, we were both very smitten. After a month all of that changed. Things just got serious. He is very different in the way he expresses himself and i constantly wanted attention but thats not the way it works with virgos. My virgo too ignored me and disappeared for a couple of weeks. He came back though and when he did he told me he thought about me everyday we didn't talk and he expected me to go see him at work (even though he ignored me?). Ive learned that you cant have an ego with the virgo man because he already is unsure of himself. You have to be loving and gentle always. When a virgo starts to get their way they can be self sabotaging and when he is the weak one you have to be the strong one because trust me, you will have doubts too and he will be the strong one. When my virgo came back he said he was ready to fully commit to me and i forgave him. He also asked me to be patient with his communication which is something i knew he had problems with. I care for him deeply and as a leo we are very forgiving and patient to the ones we truly love. I know OP you have it in you to be a loving patient woman and you should be because it is totally worth it. A virgo man will teach you to not only think about yourself, he will make you want to be a better person and in return he will always have your back. As a leo you need to be stable and not insecure just because he doesn't text you. Trust me he is thinking about you and he will come around when he is ready and he will apologize and try to make things better, just let him be for now or you'll really push him away.

Also when he decides to come back dont be a cold leo. Leos give the cold shoulder with no problem but you cannot do that with the virgo. He needs reassurance and i know so do you but he will come back and give you the reassurance you need so always make sure you give it right back. Again lose the ego.
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Posted by MoonshineLeo
op i have to agree with @SMC on this one,

im a Leo also dating a virgo whom i love so much. At first we were addicted to each other. He always wanted to see me and always text me and all the good stuff, we were both very smitten. After a month all of that changed. Things just got serious. He is very different in the way he expresses himself and i constantly wanted attention but thats not the way it works with virgos. My virgo too ignored me and disappeared for a couple of weeks. He came back though and when he did he told me he thought about me everyday we didn't talk and he expected me to go see him at work (even though he ignored me?). Ive learned that you cant have an ego with the virgo man because he already is unsure of himself. You have to be loving and gentle always. When a virgo starts to get their way they can be self sabotaging and when he is the weak one you have to be the strong one because trust me, you will have doubts too and he will be the strong one. When my virgo came back he said he was ready to fully commit to me and i forgave him. He also asked me to be patient with his communication which is something i knew he had problems with. I care for him deeply and as a leo we are very forgiving and patient to the ones we truly love. I know OP you have it in you to be a loving patient woman and you should be because it is totally worth it. A virgo man will teach you to not only think about yourself, he will make you want to be a better person and in return he will always have your back. As a leo you need to be stable and not insecure just because he doesn't text you. Trust me he is thinking about you and he will come around when he is ready and he will apologize and try to make things better, just let him be for now or you'll really push him away.

Also when he decides to come back dont be a cold leo. Leos give the cold shoulder with no problem but you cannot do that with the virgo. He needs reassurance and i know so do you but he will come back and give you the reassurance you need so always make sure you give it right back. Again lose the ego.
Well...... As an update my Virgo texted me and asked could he come over to talk. I said no problem. Not sure if our talk is going to result into a complete break up or whether we are going to try to fix it, but he said he wanted to come so I'm going to let him. I'm going to just listen. My opinion is still slightly different because I'm still in touch with my Leo nature. I haven't submitted to Virgo yet. So I'd rather just hear what he has to say..... If he still comes.

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Sounds to me like you think so highly of yourself that you allow no room for your errors ... and expect him to honor you for how much you believe in yourself in being right.



for example ... after saying all this shit about him with intentions of drawing a horrific picture of his character, you then say something like .... I just want him to admit he's wrong and apologize.



those ^^^^^ are the words of an insincere person who's on a power trip.

As a Virgo, he likely picked up on how it looks like your intention with him is to change him into a person you can mold, twist and make demands on. And Virgos don't play those kind of games.



I realized the issue was you being so full of yourself that you believe you have the right to decided and speak for another person when you said ......



Posted by desilove333

..... he felt an instant connection to me.




You couldn't care a less about the man for who he is ...... you have no clue how another person feels.

You just want superficial attention and willing to risk your own honor to get it.

How sad, really.



He dodged a bullet ... kudos to him.

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Posted by P-Angel


Sounds to me like you think so highly of yourself that you allow no room for your errors ... and expect him to honor you for how much you believe in yourself in being right.



for example ... after saying all this shit about him with intentions of drawing a horrific picture of his character, you then say something like .... I just want him to admit he's wrong and apologize.



those ^^^^^ are the words of an insincere person who's on a power trip.

As a Virgo, he likely picked up on how it looks like your intention with him is to change him into a person you can mold, twist and make demands on. And Virgos don't play those kind of games.



I realized the issue was you being so full of yourself that you believe you have the right to decided and speak for another person when you said ......



Posted by desilove333

..... he felt an instant connection to me.




You couldn't care a less about the man for who he is ...... you have no clue how another person feels.

You just want superficial attention and willing to risk your own honor to get it.

How sad, really.



He dodged a bullet ... kudos to him.

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?? So I think you just texted threw up all over the place so let me hand you some facts to help you clean up your mess........ Firstly, whether I care for you or not, I will not be ran over by a Virgo or any man and allow them to think it is OK. Thats not a zodiac thing, thats a individual who knows her worth thing. Secondly, my Virgo has serious insecure issues that he has admitted too and apologized for several times. None by which were caused by me (all from his past) He has went through my phone because of his insecurities and apologized later, he has said hurtful things and then apologize later for his words. This is a rollar coaster relationship and yes I know I have flaw and I work on mines everyday. He even tells me how much he appreciates my efforts into changing who I am for him. ('CHANGING WHO I AM FOR HIM?)However, its only so much I'm willing to do without seeing NO CHANGE from him. All he does is admit he is wrong, but his pattern/behavior never changes. What's the point of saying sorry constantly, but never changing what you are sorry for? If I was this horrible, self-centered insecure person he would have never asked to talk. Obviously, he knows how much the relationship means and willing to try to fix it. I told him i was done and i didnt want this anymore and he reached out, I didn't. Anything this man has asked me to fix/change I have. He is the one doing the molding, NOT ME because he's not changing. I didn't paint a picture of a horrible man, I stated what MY man actions were and asked for feedback. Someone clearly drew you and forgot to put you in a cartoon because you are clearly animated??. You probably are a push over with no voice and get cheated on all the time because you think this behavior is OK. Lol what a joke.

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Posted by MoonshineLeo
op i have to agree with @SMC on this one,

im a Leo also dating a virgo whom i love so much. At first we were addicted to each other. He always wanted to see me and always text me and all the good stuff, we were both very smitten. After a month all of that changed. Things just got serious. He is very different in the way he expresses himself and i constantly wanted attention but thats not the way it works with virgos. My virgo too ignored me and disappeared for a couple of weeks. He came back though and when he did he told me he thought about me everyday we didn't talk and he expected me to go see him at work (even though he ignored me?). Ive learned that you cant have an ego with the virgo man because he already is unsure of himself. You have to be loving and gentle always. When a virgo starts to get their way they can be self sabotaging and when he is the weak one you have to be the strong one because trust me, you will have doubts too and he will be the strong one. When my virgo came back he said he was ready to fully commit to me and i forgave him. He also asked me to be patient with his communication which is something i knew he had problems with. I care for him deeply and as a leo we are very forgiving and patient to the ones we truly love. I know OP you have it in you to be a loving patient woman and you should be because it is totally worth it. A virgo man will teach you to not only think about yourself, he will make you want to be a better person and in return he will always have your back. As a leo you need to be stable and not insecure just because he doesn't text you. Trust me he is thinking about you and he will come around when he is ready and he will apologize and try to make things better, just let him be for now or you'll really push him away.

Also when he decides to come back dont be a cold leo. Leos give the cold shoulder with no problem but you cannot do that with the virgo. He needs reassurance and i know so do you but he will come back and give you the reassurance you need so always make sure you give it right back. Again lose the ego.
Well...... As an update my Virgo texted me and asked could he come over to talk. I said no problem. Not sure if our talk is going to result into a complete break up or whether we are going to try to fix it, but he said he wanted to come so I'm going to let him. I'm going to just listen. My opinion is still slightly different because I'm still in touch with my Leo nature. I haven't submitted to Virgo yet. So I'd rather just hear what he has to say..... If he still comes.

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op i have to agree with @SMC on this one,

im a Leo also dating a virgo whom i love so much. At first we were addicted to each other. He always wanted to see me and always text me and all the good stuff, we were both very smitten. After a month all of that changed. Things just got serious. He is very different in the way he expresses himself and i constantly wanted attention but thats not the way it works with virgos. My virgo too ignored me and disappeared for a couple of weeks. He came back though and when he did he told me he thought about me everyday we didn't talk and he expected me to go see him at work (even though he ignored me?). Ive learned that you cant have an ego with the virgo man because he already is unsure of himself. You have to be loving and gentle always. When a virgo starts to get their way they can be self sabotaging and when he is the weak one you have to be the strong one because trust me, you will have doubts too and he will be the strong one. When my virgo came back he said he was ready to fully commit to me and i forgave him. He also asked me to be patient with his communication which is something i knew he had problems with. I care for him deeply and as a leo we are very forgiving and patient to the ones we truly love. I know OP you have it in you to be a loving patient woman and you should be because it is totally worth it. A virgo man will teach you to not only think about yourself, he will make you want to be a better person and in return he will always have your back. As a leo you need to be stable and not insecure just because he doesn't text you. Trust me he is thinking about you and he will come around when he is ready and he will apologize and try to make things better, just let him be for now or you'll really push him away.

Also when he decides to come back dont be a cold leo. Leos give the cold shoulder with no problem but you cannot do that with the virgo. He needs reassurance and i know so do you but he will come back and give you the reassurance you need so always make sure you give it right back. Again lose the ego.
Well...... As an update my Virgo texted me and asked could he come over to talk. I said no problem. Not sure if our talk is going to result into a complete break up or whether we are going to try to fix it, but he said he wanted to come so I'm going to let him. I'm going to just listen. My opinion is still slightly different because I'm still in touch with my Leo nature. I haven't submitted to Virgo yet. So I'd rather just hear what he has to say..... If he still comes.

I will. He just texted and asked was it still ok if he came over and I said yes. I'm assuming he has a lot or enough to say so I don't plan on saying much. Just want to take in his point of view and listen. We'll see how it goes.


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